Sunday, August 18, 2019

An Intimate Peek Into Two Ttwd Bedrooms








You are about to take a peek into two different ttwd bedrooms. These bedrooms are a continent apart, but so much that happens in these bedrooms is very similar. I think you will find a lot of similarities.


Ttwd is a very private, closed-door activity between two loving people. Laurel and I both fully agree on that. Once that bedroom door closes, the intimacy takes over. Jack had told me I was "micro-managing and he handled my bossiness is a tried and true Hoh way which did include some of the paddle. After it was over, I thought a lot about the atmosphere of a spanking: the environment of our bedroom and what exactly had happened. When the spanking was over, I was very turned on. Yes, my bottom was sore and I was in Jack's arms and the "micro-managing" was over, but my mind was swirling. I thought about the wonderful secret we share and I thought about the atmosphere of our ttwd bedroom. 


Peek inside our bedroom. I am very quiet and calm when I meet Jack at the side of the bed. He is gentle, touching me and soft-spoken. This man loves me and I am never frightened. He undresses me and he is very much in control. There is definite electricity in the air. I am never scared. My tummy flips and flops. I know how this ends and I am full of trust and love of this guy. We continue to talk right there at the side of the bed......... but talk is now quiet and purposeful as he explains why he is unhappy with me. Sometimes he talks holding the paddle.  I look at him with real and honest admiration for taking the lead in our family and for taking care of us. Then talk is over and over I go. This atmosphere is one of love and keeping us on track. It works and it works so well. We can easily start over and do so facing forward........... without any micro-managing. 


I asked my good friend Laurel about the atmosphere of spanking in her bedroom. She sent me her answer that I found so poignant and eloquent I asked her if I might share her response on the blog. She said yes and here is what she wrote. 

I am thinking about our "atmosphere" and I think in one word, it's respect- especially at that time. I look at that guy as I'm between his legs or at the side of the bed with nothing but admiration and appreciation. I may not want what's about to come my way, but in the moment, he's attentive and considerate, thoughtful of me and my need, or our needs, and he delivers. He speaks firmly, but calmly even when he means business. I am grateful, always grateful to him for taking on this responsibility of us. It's a really big one, and maybe that is why it's so hard for some guys. My guy also loves how we are able to move on afterward, the feelings of closure, love and closeness that lets us start again. 


These two peeks are very real and telling. I thank Laurel for sharing and allowing me to post their take of the atmosphere in their home. It really makes me just smile because ttwd is that special secret that is shared behind closed doors and then with a good friend afterward. 

Meredith

14 comments:

  1. Both these shared moments are a microcosm of ttwd working in a marriage. What happens at the edge of the bed touches all the coming days and nights of a happy relationship.

    This post is both simple and beautiful, Mere. Thanks for the peeks. Those of us who maintain a ttwd marriage have our own memories of those talks next to the bed. But you have captured the moment in words.

    Ella

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    1. Ella,
      This was a post I found most poignant to write. Thank you.
      Meredith

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  2. Meredith,

    How lovely, this look into the closed doors of the bedrooms of two friends.

    My Sheriff and I aren't there yet, but slowly, I see the change. My Sheriff is most definitely in control of our house and our lives. And while I feel overwhelmed sometimes, I KNOW he will hold me safe, and guide us forward.

    I am loving this journey!
    Boo

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    1. Dear B,
      The learning takes time. You will make it.
      M

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  3. Meredith,
    What a beautiful post by you and Laurel. The steady rhythm of your intimate ttwd behind that closed door is what keeps you in sync. I enjoy knowing this. Thanks for sharing. Hugs, Windy

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    1. Windy,
      Thank you for your heartfelt comment.
      M

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  4. So beautiful and eloquent Meredith and Laurel, love this!

    Hugs
    Roz

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  5. You and Laurel are both lucky women. I agree with you respect, gratitude, trust are all words to describe the 'feeling' in our bedrooms.

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    1. PK,
      Thanks for your comment. Those words are the cornerstone.
      M

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  6. This was such an interesting question to ponder Meredith, you really had me thinking on this one and I’m glad. I think it’s good to give thought to these workings inside our marriage, it helps us to appreciate even more what we have when we start breaking it down and remembering the little details. Thanks for getting the wheels turning! xo

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    1. Laurel,
      The best part of your description was when you talked of the great respect you have for one another. I loved that.
      M

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  7. I think many of us experience the same feelings but you and Laurel have put those feelings into heartfelt words. Great job!
    Rosie xx

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  8. Rosie,
    Good to hear from you here. I especially like her words concerning respect when it is time to begin. So essential!
    M

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