Friday, May 17, 2019

Advice From A Respected Blogger




Have you read Windy's Part One post? She and Storm ran right into a big roadblock and then needed to work things out. Windy gave us Part One. Then an interesting thing happened. The two of us talk on the phone a couple of times a week. Before she posted Part One, we talked. I reassured her that we had been right where she and Storm were. Over the six years of our ttwd, we have had such a situation and needed to regroup, reassess and even renegotiate. I worried and fretted just as she did. I did write about it, but I do not have the luxury of time to comb through 508 posts in search of our ttwd mess that I did write about. We shared our thinking with one another and I listened to Windy knowing she was right. Yes, I have said all this before, but Windy encouraged me to say it again. 

Blogging is on the back burner now as I enjoy many other things, but I did want to tell Windy that the biggest tool of ttwd is right there for her and her husband to use. The tool is not a paddle, but communication between the two of them. Talking, talking and some more talking was my recommendation. Throw in some listening and discussion and the situation is fixed. 

In return, Windy gave me some worthy advice. Yes, I may have written about our ttwd one-time fiasco, but I need to revisit how things are working for Jack and me. She said that I need to share what is working, what has changed, what will never change. Saying that once Jack saw how well a spanking worked, he knew ttwd was here to stay, and then never blogging about it again is not helpful to people still reading this blog. What is happening right here is still important for blogland to read about............ so says Windy! When I told her that I had already written about all that, she said that I needed to write once again. People want to hear that our ttwd is still going strong.


What has happened in six years of ttwd is amazing. We have changed our marriage.  I am still feisty, but I have really checked how I speak to my husband and he acknowledges that. He does not ever want me to change. He has complimented me on the way I accept his leadership instead of fighting it.  I have stopped needing the last word. I never say no regarding sex and the sex is firework-worthy. Married a long time, I thought those firework times were over, but spanking and intimacy have fueled things in completely another direction. That pleases both of us big time. Jack said he was completely unprepared for the reaction of his wife after a big spanking........ my emotions were under control, my willingness to turn to him physically and emotionally was very obvious. Things began to smooth out for us. Jack likes to joke that he found the secret to "peace in his valley". He loved the results of a spanking and we were never giving that up. My guy was really a natural at being an Hoh and even more so at spanking his wife enough to "sting her bottom and turn things around". A spanking has the power to stop things cold. Although there is nothing cold about it. 

All this to say that ttwd is a part of who we are as if it were in our very DNA. We live it........ No more roadblocks, but checkups when needed. 

I see that there is Part Two waiting for me to read. 
Hooray!

Meredith

12 comments:

  1. Windy is right you know. I for one, miss your regular blogs. However, I know you are busy, but updates are vital!

    Hugs
    Boo

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  2. Mere,
    I am glad Windy gave you a little push to share this. I so remember hanging on every word back when I first found your blog. I would read and read until my eyes started to droop, and I knew I had to go to bed.

    Sam and I had found our way with DD articles, but it still wasn't exactly right for us. So many rules! New Twist painted a different picture, and it was rather a beacon that steered me closer to what I knew would work for us.

    You have been a beacon for many, many women. It's nice to hear you haven't lost your touch, my friend.

    Ella

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    1. Ella,
      Thank you for your generous comments. I did not know I was a beacon.
      Meredith

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  3. Your blog has always been genuine, interesting, and sincere and I agree with Windy that it’s important to share these glimpses of your ttwd life with Jack. You’ve helped so many by sharing real stories about how it all works in your house. They’ve made me smile, laugh out loud and at times even brought tears to my eyes but I’ve loved every one of them! Thank you for being so generous. :)

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    1. Laurel,
      Thank you for your kind words. You and I have talked about the slowing of my blog and I appreciate your kind words.
      Meredith

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  4. So good, Meredith, that you were there for Windy with words of wisdom and experience. Your ttwd life with Jack has been and continues to be an example for many, as to how well it all works ... and yes, how ttwd brings peace to many a valley ... nj

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    1. NJ,
      Thank you for your kind words.
      Meredith

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  5. Meredith ,
    Your blog attracts ttwd -minded gals because you know what you're flipping talking about and it screams authenticity. We here in blog land are so fortunate to not only have your blog that helped us all at the beginning, but now have you as a friend behind the blog as well. To have what you wrote for the past almot 6 years is wonderful, but we still want Meredith here when she has time to let us know what is currently working in your ttwd marriage. I know there are silent readers out there who probably miss your heavy blogging days. Thanks for the update, the reminders, the tips, and all that jazz. Hugs, Windy

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    1. Windy,
      It was your "pitchfolking" that resulted in this post. Thank you! Your kind words are important to me.
      Meredith

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  6. Hi Meredith,

    I'm glad Windy encouraged you to share this. I enjoyed reading this and agree,the biggest tool is communication.

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. Roz,
      No truer words were ever written. These hohs are not mind readers. We must share and frequently. Thank you!
      Meredith

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