Thursday, August 30, 2018

Hoh-ing Is Now A Verb





We all know the eight parts of speech: nouns, pronouns, verbs, adjectives, adverbs, interjections, conjunctions and prepositions. So it was unsettling to have my Jack coin a new verb...... hoh-ing.

Once these husbands see how ttwd works and works so well to maintain peace and add sexual magic, they begin to wear their status proudly and confidently. At least that is just what my guy does. 

In the olden days, five years ago when our ttwd was new, my Jack was a bit tentative. He was very much aware of the benefits of a spanking. He saw my attitude change, tempers eased and the peace that followed. He was always consistent in defining what he liked and wanted, but always, perhaps, holding back a little. A perfect example of this is that although he purchased implements, he seldom used them. His hand spankings were hard and to the point. 

As he has continued to excel in his hoh role, I have found that paddle on the bed more times than I can count. The paddle had become the summer metaphor around here. Spanked wife, happy life! Out doing errands on Friday, I was questioning something, who knows what, and his hand came down on my leg in a sharp slap. He said, " I am hoh-ing here concerning that decision of yours and I want you to know that right now". I blinked and nodded which is a safe response when he is in lecture mode about the things he holds dear. 

There was a spanking once we were home as I had continued to go on about that decision while on our errand. I came upstairs ready to state my side of things and saw the paddle out on the bed. Darn! He had made up his mind to spank way earlier and nothing changes his mind. He bared me and over I went. That paddle entered quite early in this spanking and I could not and would not hold still. He stopped spanking and started talking.  He told me I was to be more submissive during a spanking. I told him that the paddle hurt. Back over for more. Up into his arms, and close to tears, I told him I would do better at accepting his decisions. 

So we were in bed and I brought up ttwd and submission while we spooned in that time before sleep. That time is always a good opportunity to talk in hushed voices about important things. I said that I thought I was submissive when I was bared and over the bed. He said that he is dominant when he does the baring and bends me over the bed. Submissive would be baring myself and bending over the bed. To me, it all leads to the same place...... one hoh, one paddle, one bared wife and one bed! It is all just different interpretations of the same ttwd thing. What do you think? 

All I know is that my guy is feeling his glory in being an hoh. I sit here thinking about our ttwd journey and love where we are and know this is a very good place to be. 

Will you share Jack's newly coined verb with your sweetie? 

Meredith

14 comments:

  1. well seeing as how BIKSS isn't HOH around these parts, but he IS daddy, i daresay we have used Daddy as a verb too :)

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  2. M,
    I would certainly agree that being bared and bent over the bed and getting spanked is submissive. I would also agree that Jack was being dominant in doing the baring and the spanking since you struggled a bit with being still (laughing), but he does this because you have an agreement that he can exercise his authority. Basically, I see it as you two giving each other the permission to be what each other needs to be in the moment.
    What interests me next is the pronunciation of "Hoh-ing" ..... will have to get your take on that sometime soon. Laughing! My HOH needs to get well as he is now the sick one in the house. Blah! Somebody here needs to get spanked and it a'int him! HA!

    This post was a treat! Hugs! Windy

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    1. Windy,
      It really makes little difference if a spanking is due.
      Thanks for your comment.
      M

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  3. Hi Meredith, I have come across this term before. Wonderful to read how you have both grown in ttwd. Our guys, while hesitant in the beginning really do embrace their role once comfortable with it!

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. Roz,
      There is no hesitation left now. Thanks for your comment.
      M

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  4. Meredith, we are in the very beginning stages of our journey, but I see my man stepping up more in different ways. For instance, when we are out for an extended outing, I am told now to strap up (bad ankle must be in one of my braces). I am not allowed to go without it. So yes, my hubby is learning this hoh-ing verb. Maybe as we grow in our roles, I will see more prominent hoh-ing from my man.

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    1. B,
      Do not worry..... newness wears off when the results are noted. Trust me.
      M

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  5. Thanks Meredith (and Jack) for yet another new acronym ;)) ... but a very appropriate one at that. Frank, raised that question the other day ... re baring vs being bared and which makes me feel more submissive ... I go with the being bared ... nj ... xx

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    1. NJ,
      I vote with the same as you. Thank you for your comment.
      M

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  6. We have been taking this journey slowly but I have definitely seen more times that he is seeing his role as HOHing in the verb sense. I think once the guys see it as a verb, much more good stuff happens in the marriage as it touches every aspect of our relationship. I also think it's easier for me because I have you all. The guys kind of have to figure things out themselves which is good in the sense that there are no rules and it's can't become a competition (who's the better HOH, who's more strict, who's more understanding etc), but it's also a negative in that I think it must be a lonely spot to be in. Talk about a humungous responsibility! I love my guy so much for doing what will help us even if he isn't completely comfortable (though as he gets more comfortable I'm feeling it - literally)!
    Just my thoughts on this lovely Friday. Be well!

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    1. Deena,
      When these men acknowledge who we are and then act on it, it is an act of love for sure. Thank you for commenting.
      M

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  7. Yes, I have shared this newly conceived verb with my sweetie and just last night he used it in the kitchen telling me to listen up or I was about to be verbed! It was quite funny.
    Regarding the sense of submission, I’m with you...whether I’m being bared or I’m the one baring we all know where it’s going and I am (usually!) in the appropriate head space for it.
    This is a funny one!

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    1. Laurel,
      You are so right........ it is funny sometimes and other times, humor leaves us. Thank you for your comment. Verbs are powerful!
      M

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