Friday, August 24, 2018

Do You Want To Know A Secret?





A comment and a reply on the blogs are the way we begin communicating with our ttwd friends. At this time, these readers are strangers. Gently, we begin getting to know one another right there on the blog. Then the blogger or the reader make the jump...... emails begin between the two people. Emails are exchanged,  many or just a few. We begin to share our lives with one another. Then we take the next big step ............. an arranged phone call at an appointed time and day. When that phone rings, there is no hesitation. The call is answered and the friendship deepens. During these phone calls, both laughter and serious conversation occur. The phone calls continue and plans are made to meet in the near future. It happens slowly and deliberately. The friendship actually takes on a life of its own as secrets are shared and the foundation for a solid, lifelong presence in one another's lives grows. 

Windy and I had an initial phone call this morning. Time flew as we talked jumping from one topic to another. We listened to one another, laughed at what we learned and enjoyed that initial taste of deepening a real friendship. We will one day meet and bring our husbands to the occasion. 

When I began blogging, I really thought about what I wanted the goal to be. I did not want help from other bloggers or readers. Jack and I have been married a long time and ttwd returned the magic, fun and the relinquishing of control that I so wanted not to argue about. My personal goal was the making of real ttwd friends. To do that, I knew I had to build a safe blog environment which would encourage people to come together, talk and eventually meet. It took time and after five years, I have those lifelong friends securely in my life. 

When Windy entered my life, I initially sensed several things: she was an excellent writer; she was trustworthy so I felt comfortable sharing my ttwd life; she listened to my advice and my warnings about the ins and outs of starting a blog. She was an easy read if you listened carefully. Educated and eager to learn the give and take in blogging, her blog is now well-established as a favorite of many. 

When bloggers and readers become friends, the bonds are hard and fast and forever strong. In the sharing, we all help one another, protect one another and keep one another's secrets. 

So who are we? A group of women, bloggers and readers, who found one another because we are all spankos who fortunately have husbands who listened to us and knew us well. We are wired differently. We are women who have led and controlled things until we wanted out of the control, but not the marriage. And we all found one another here on the blogs.

Have you connected with a blogger?  The invitation is always right there. Can you keep a secret? We promise not to tell. 

Meredith


21 comments:

  1. Meredith, you and your blog are amazing. We have never met, we have emailed and you started your gentle guidance. I reached out to you on something totally unrelated and you brought me forward. Then, you brought in Windy, and oh boy! That Windy Bird seems so much like you. Gently guiding me through this weird ttwd world that I desperately want. Without you, I woukd still be lurking. It is a wonderful thing that you do, guiding newbies and blissfully making new friends carefully. So thank you!

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  2. lovely lovely post. i wish there were more south east asian ttwd-ers tho. :)

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    1. Fondles,
      The world is full of people like us. Asking them to step forward is a different story.
      M

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  3. Terrific post Mere. Indeed I have made great friends in blogland.

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    1. Sunny,
      I am very glad we include on another in that group.
      M

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  4. I love the sign in the picture, how true it is! I’m happy to say that I know your process of making deep friendships with readers and bloggers and I am so pleased to be one of them. I do think it’s harder for readers to break through those blog walls to make the friendships you write about. Not blogging myself puts me at a disadvantage but your blog has always been so open and welcoming to everyone that it was impossible not to try. Thank you for that.

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    1. Laurel,
      Thank you as always for your kind words.
      M

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  5. Well said Meredith. I've been making friends here quite a while and each one is special and unique. I think making friends mostly through the written word has made me a better writer. And that is a great joy to me.

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    1. PK,
      Making friends was one of the first things I learned from you, dear friend.
      M

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  6. What a lovely post Meredith, and very well said. When I started commenting then started my own bolg I never dreamed I would make such wonderful and lasting friendships. Each one I cherish dearly. This really is an amazing community.

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. Roz,
      This is an amazing place indeed.
      Thanks for your comment.
      M

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  7. Agreed with your words completely Meredith!
    I have so many beautiful and enriching friendships here! I speak on the phone with many and have met a few! I have the very small negligible few who were not who they said or caused judgement apon others. We live, love, enjoy and grow!
    I love this place!

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    1. Minelle,
      The positives so far outweigh the negatives. Thanks for you comment.
      M

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  8. Absolutely! Love the sign...it did give me a little chuckle;-) An amazing community of ladies who are brave and loyal.
    Mignon

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  9. Meredith,
    The Queen of Commenting is to be beheaded tomorrow at noon. She sends her apologies for being late in hopes that you will pardon her from this fate.

    I may be sick with fever, but not so ill that I would ever spill your secrets or forget to comment on your lovely friendship post about how you brought me into the fold here in the lush pastures of blog land where beautiful ttwd wives graze. You are quite the capable shepherdess and this little lamb will be forever grateful for your gentle guidance, your sense of security, and your sweet voice that both lulls and entertains.

    I love this post. Thank you for being my dear friend.

    Hugs,
    Windy

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    1. Windy,
      Here you are being late and sick. Do not worry and please take ccare of yourself. Get back on your feet soon.
      M

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  10. Hi Meredith

    I very much enjoy reading your blog and many others. I read sporadically and could never commit to the time that would be required to maintain an active and interesting blog. I have commented on a number but have never made the plunge to email as I feel that I would not be a good companion due to time constraints. I find it difficult to maintain my relationships with my close friends let alone on-line ones that I may make. I will keep reading and commenting occasionally even though I would dearly like to be able to speak openly about TTWD with a like minded and sympathetic soul.

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    1. Welcome, Annon,
      It might be a good idea to write me an email. It sounds as though you have things to say. I am waiting.
      M

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  11. very nicely written
    I am so grateful for all my friends here
    hugs

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