Tuesday, May 29, 2018

A Talk, A Walk And The Paddle




As I was preparing this post, I seriously thought about no photo or making this one photo smaller. As Windy noticed, I am becoming more and more private, but still sharing.

Do you ever have one of those days when no matter what you say or do, things do not go right? For two days things have not gone well here at all. Too many mini-arguments, too many sharp responses, too many sighs and unhappy comments. 

We tried all the usual things.......... A small spanking of sorts, lots of talking, some sharp slaps on a bare leg in the car, more talking. Nothing was working. Within minutes, we were right back to bickering. The bulk of the problem was me giving too many instructions, being bossy. My guy let it go until there was no turning back. 

We decided to go for a long walk. We decided we would each listen to things on our phones. I would listen to podcasts and he would listen to his music. Then I noticed I had forgotten my headphones. Jack said we would walk and talk. Oh, boy! Things became rough a few more times......... I even said I would just remain silent. That did not go over well. We talked about what we were observing, only to return to the bickering for lack of a better word. Ugh! 

When we got home, he had things to do and so did I. Finally, I decided to go up to take a shower. Jack was watching me as I climbed the stairs waiting for what? Right there on the bed was the leather paddle! I turned quickly around to look at Jack and all he did was nod. 

Jack came right upstairs joining me at the side of the bed and undressed me. He spanked first with his hand and that man can really spank. Then came the paddle and I was dancing away not really staying still, but actually dancing so much that I came right out of the white walking socks I was wearing. For some reason, they were still on when the spanking began and off when the spanking was over. He hasn't used that paddle in a long time. It was on the bed front and center. Boy howdy, he used it fast and furiously, but at the end of a hand spanking. About five spanks with that paddle and I was done. Finally, he brought me up and held me in his arms, all teary-eyed and spent. The bickering, whatever we called it, was now over and things were smooth again. No more prickily back-and-forth. There was peace in my man's valley and that makes all the difference. 

Meredith

23 comments:

  1. Mere,
    I think this is true of every relationship, except we notice it more in a ttwd one. No matter how hard you try, the couple's thinking drifts apart and the bickering starts. For some reason your post today made me think about a study I read long ago when I was teaching that explained how Mozart's music is truly genius because it mimics the pattern of our brain waves.

    People who heard the classical composer's music showed an increase in brain wave activity linked to memory, understanding and problem-solving.

    We always marvel at how a spanking like the one you have described brings us back together. Perhaps it brings us back in tune with our partner's brain waves. We remember and understand who he is and what is important to that connection. We also again come to know how to not let problems become bigger than the love between us.

    Great post!
    Ella

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    1. Ella,
      You always teach something when commenting. I really like the brain waves part.
      Meredith

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  2. Hi Meredith, big hugs, life is a pain in the a**.
    love Jan, xx

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    1. Jan,
      Indeed it was a bit painful here on my side of the pond. Hope you are well.
      Meredith

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  3. And just think you could have gone around mad and silent for a week with each of you stewing instead. Sounds to me like you got this marriage thing down. But gee, I can't imagine you as bossy! LOL!

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    1. PK,
      You have only seen me in sweet form. We do have this marriage thing down as far as ttwd goes.
      Meredith

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  4. Meredith,
    Storm says you need a long pair of suspenders to hold up your socks. LOL!

    I am glad Jack smoothed everything out between you.

    I think the rough of way of interpreting what Ella said up there in her comment is that our brains are somehow connected to our rear ends. :) Thanks for sharing and posting! Love it!

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    1. Windy,
      You had me laughing as I think our brains are connected to our rears....... always!
      Meredith

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  5. I have had one of one of those days you are writing about here, and I’m sure it ended in a very similar fashion! I do love that we have this way to clear the air, and bring us back together, but that doesn’t make it any easier when in the heat of the moment you’re dancing your socks off!
    Glad you both have peace again, thanks for sharing this tale.
    xo

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    1. Laurel,
      Yes, dancing my socks off might have been funny if it weren't for that paddle. Great comment!
      Meredith

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  6. Hi Meredith, ooh ouch! It's awful when disharmony ensues. Glad peace has now been restored :)

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. Roz,
      Ouch for sure! Thank you for your comment.
      Meredith

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  7. It's good to know even the experienced ttwd couples still have rough patches now and again. Happy for you both that it's all sorted out and there is peace in Jack and Meredith land again. I do have to say however, I am surprised Jack waited that long to set things right ;)) ... hugs ... nj

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    1. NJ,
      Yes, five years in ....... this kind of spanking can and does happen. I thought he waited a long time too.
      Meredith

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  8. Happy to hear peace has been restored in the Meredith and Jack household.

    Love,
    Ronnie
    xx

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    1. Ronnie,
      Yes, peace at the expense of my bottom. Thanks for the comment.
      Meredith

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  9. I had to smile at the socks coming off. But aside from that, it sounds like all is peaceful on the homefront again. I sometimes wish it didn't have to come to this before we started feeling "at peace" again. Ouch. But glad it's sorted.

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    1. Fondles,
      I smiled way, way, way afterwards!!!
      Thanks for your comment,
      Meredith

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  10. Yikes, Meredith! :) A couple of days sounds rough! So glad that the valley is a place of peace once more. Many hugs,

    ❤️Katie xoxo

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    1. Katie,
      Yikes right back! This needed to happen according to my Jack. Things are smooth! Thanks for the comment.
      Meredith

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  11. Yay for peace! Yay for Jack! Yay for you! From this outsider's view it seems everything went as it needed to go :)

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  12. Deena,
    Thank you for your support. Everything went as it was suppose to except for the socks dancing right off my feet.
    Meredith

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  13. This post reminds me of why we practice this type of relationship. Thankfully the wall is down and things are all good again. I like how you worked things out and that you are honest enough to share your struggles not just your successes.

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