Thursday, April 5, 2018

Yes, It Still Happens Here





Two rough days here and one huge spanking! I could not sleep last night. I borrowed Nora Jean's illustration depicting my restless night. I knew I needed a way to share what happened. The longer I blog, the harder it is for me to do that. However, I feel a real responsibility to share what happens even though those real spanking times are more infrequent. They still do happen............ yesterday, in fact. 

We had had words concerning a situation the day before. I had yelled and stormed out the door. It felt like old times and I calmed down before driving away. Once home, I immediately apologized and Jack told me that it had better not happen again.

We are doing many banking activities involving our bank accounts and investments. Important, but not a whole lot of fun. We were at the bank in one of those glassed-in, open offices. We were joined by not one, but two bankers. We learned that we would have to collapse all of our accounts and reopen them with new account numbers. I became really upset knowing that although Jack would help, the bulk of the work setting things up would fall to me. Readers, upon hearing that, I flipped out. I turned to Jack and yelled at him. I cannot remember exactly what I said, but I do remember the look on my poor husband's face. The two bankers tried blending into the woodwork and Jack firmly put his hand on my leg. I stepped way out of my submission and continued to talk way too loudly and disrespectfully. Jack told me that that was enough. I quieted and we told the two bankers that we would follow their advice another time. Quickly accepting their business cards, we walked back across the bank lobby and I was still agitated and upset. So was my husband!  

We headed home not saying much. We had two more stops and at both places, Jack told me to stay in the car and get myself together. When he left the car, I did a lot of thinking. What had I done? Flipping out, yelling at my husband, rude and disrespect behavior in front of others! I thought that maybe this is a situation way too big for ttwd! What a crazy, wild thought! 

Once home, I apologized several times for my obnoxious behavior. He said little and we had lunch. Then we went to our hot tub and I thought maybe this incident was way outside the realm of ttwd. We enjoyed the hot water and did a little talking about an upcoming road trip. I got out first and headed to our bedroom to dress. He was right behind me. He took me by the wrist and I was over that bed in no time. Damp and tender, my bottom was simply blistered to a bright red as he talked about the last two days and what had happened at the bank. He was determined to spank it all right out of me, but no implement was used. I was grateful and was very teary when he brought me up and held me. Still talking about his expectations, I listened and leaned in. 

This morning I asked him why no implement was used. He pulled me close and told me he was too angry and upset to use his paddle. I nodded and leaned in more.  

Things have calmed down. We have talked about the bankers' advice. I have leaned in and it is a smooth day here. When something like this happens, I think about it a lot. It does not happen often. I cannot remember the last time! This time I am grateful more than ever for ttwd. We have a framework for handling situations like the one that happened yesterday. When disrespect occurs, we have a way of getting things back on track. We communicate and love one another, but that ttwd is always there, as a big umbrella keeping us safe, loving and moving forward. We are sheltered by that umbrella communicating, listening and respecting one another. When I stumble, he is right there to set us straight.

So I had a really sore bottom yesterday, but I had, too, a husband who put us right back on track and who really did know just what to do. Ttwd is really always right there under that umbrella. 








Meredith

29 comments:

  1. Love the quote at the end, Meredith <3 ... as you know, when you have been a strong, independent woman all your life, it is even more difficult to do that 'leaning in' at critical points when you feel your voice needs to be heard. Good that Jack reminded you, in ttwd, there are right ways and wrong ways to use that voice ... here's to sore bums and happy hearts ... hugs! ... nj

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    1. NJ,
      I love "sore bums and happy hearts"...... amen to that!
      Thank you for your comment.
      M

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  2. Love that last quote...so true. It has been a long time since I have 'gone off the deep end' for lack of a better way to say it. For that we are both thankful...do either one of us think it will never happen again..nope. But we...like most reading here..have a way to quickly find our way back to peace and respect and love...hugs abby

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    1. Abby,
      We are in agreement.......... I love that quote as well. Thanks for your comment.
      M

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  3. Oh my heart went out to you. I also get very overwhelmed by paperwork sort of stuff - it makes me nervous because it needs to be perfect. That being said, I can only imagine how awful the situation was in that it was a public thing. Yikies. I'm so happy for you and Jack. You really do have a way to make things right again and you use it. Hoping this task goes smoothly for you and maybe when you're done you'll get a GGS ;)

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    1. Deena,
      It was a hard walk through a crowded bank lobby. That is for sure. Things were set to rights very soon.
      Thanks for your comment.
      M

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  4. It sounds like a tough couple of days but it’s good to hear you’re through it and all is peaceful in that valley again. Ttwd truly is our saving grace when things get rough. It helps to set or reset our priorities and makes us remember exactly what they are. I can honestly say that I’ve done my share of flipping on occasion and I’ve been grateful after the fact that we had something to bring us back to centre.
    Enjoy and appreciate each other.....and I happen to love your umbrella!

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    1. Laurel,
      You are so right. Ttwd is our saving grace and the flipping out simply stops and Jack has his peace.
      Thanks for your comment.
      M

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  5. Glad he had you, even though it sounds like the past few days were rough. These posts are important to show our readers how ttwd works so well in times of stress or frustration. Thanks for sharing, even when it is hard.
    --Baker

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    1. Baker,
      Thank for your comment. Ttwd works very well.
      M

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  6. OH, Meredith, that all sounds so hard. I have not had that particular situation, but whenever it's me having to do a lot to fix something that wasn't my fault, especially if I'm tired, I just can't deal with it the way I should. I am so glad that Jack is there to help you with the emotions and help you get back to where you both want to be as a couple. Glad that TTWD is right there for you, right under the umbrella. :) And I love what he said about the implement.
    EsMay

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    1. EsMay,
      So nice to have you back. I thought his non-implement choice most telling. Thank you for your comment.
      M

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  7. Hi Meredith, I love the last quote too! I'm so sorry you had a rough couple of days. I love your description of ttwd being like an umbrella. Isn't it wonderful that we have a way to resolve these situations and reconnect.

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. Roz,
      I, too, love that umbrella analogy! Thank you, as always, for your comment.
      M

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  8. I love that he keeps you on the right track - by that I mean both of you, working to make it work. You don't like doing it any more than he likes it and I'm happy for you that he corrects the whole process.

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    1. PK,
      My guy gets us right back on track for sure. Thank you for your comment.
      M

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  9. Hi Meredith, :) I love how you wrote about this. You did a great job sharing something that was unfortunate and hard too. I felt so bad for you both when you told me your story. At the same time I noticed how well your dynamic worked during the event. As hard as it was for the two of you, you stayed connected. For that, you should be proud!

    You know, we are all human. Humans make mistakes sometimes. The stress of all of the changes brought back an old, unwanted behavior that was upsetting to you both. Yet Jack knew what to do, as well as how to do it. You realized how it made him feel as soon as it happened. I'd say that those two things are part of what makes living with your dynamic so important and special for you both. You've learned a lot, and know how to draw upon that knowledge in a big way, when needed.

    You mentioned something about the situation maybe being too large for ttwd. Love how you then go on with the realization that ttwd actually is the framework that keeps the loving connection going. LOVE your liking it to an umbrella! You came together and communicated about the event, listened to each other, and moved on with love. Can you imagine the alternative? Yikes! Many hugs and love,

    ❤️Katie xoxo

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    1. Katie,
      Thank you for your recap. I do not even want to think about the alternative!
      M

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  10. Gosh, it's so lovely to read about how you've both managed to stay under that umbrella. I love the metaphor!

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    1. Fondles,
      I love a good metaphor.
      Thanks for your comment.
      M

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  11. Oh Mere! What a horrible no good rotten situation. So glad you and Jack were able to get back to each other so quickly. Girl you have a temper! But, that probably makes your submission to Jack just that much sweeter to him.
    M

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    1. M,
      I do have a temper, but it is seldom seen these days. However, two days in a row.......... not good for my bottom.
      Thanks for your comment.
      M

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  12. There were several small things that I noticed and later realized were maybe not that small after all. When you started your post with how there had been some uncharacteristic yelling the day before, I knew there was more to come. Sometimes we apologize, but the underlying irritation and discontent is still brewing inside.

    The other little part of the incident in the bank that was quite remarkable to me is that Jack handled it in such a gentlemanly fashion in front of the bankers. It would have been so easy for him to lose his temper or tell you off. Instead, he abruptly stopped everything and dealt with it at home. He should be teaching HOH For Beginners.

    You were brave to write this post, my friend. It is when we have acted so badly that we are ashamed to tell others that ttwd shows its true worth. I really can't think of any other way, you could have had a happy ending to that day. Back in his arms. I loved this post, Mere.

    Ella




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    1. Ella,
      You read my post like an ace detective. Two bad tempered days in a row set me up for this big spanking. Back in his arms, with a very sore backside. Thanks for your comment.
      M

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  13. Thank you for sharing this Mere, I know how hard it must have been to write. You had a couple of rotten days but Jack instinctively knew how to restore harmony under the ttwd umbrella - love that analogy. I hope the paperwork won’t be too onerous.
    Rosie xx

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    1. Rosie,
      Even with a great analogy, this post was difficult to write. I appreciate your kind words and your comment.
      M

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  14. I'm sorry you've had a couple of rough days but it is so reassuring to know that you've got it down to where, rather than tear you both apart for weeks at a time, you can deal with it and move on. I talked to Eric about your ability to lean in. There are some upcoming things in our world that we both believe would be a lot smoother if I would learn to close my eyes, trust, and lean into him. We are working on it. Thanks for sharing.
    Amy

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  15. Your posts about Jack's handling of situations always give me something to think about. He seems like such disciplined, intelligent man. In this post, I was so very impressed that he was so in check with himself that he refrained from using the paddle. You've got a great man!

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