Living in a Ttwd marriage is something I treasure. Sometimes it is just not always easy. Our marriage took a wonderful, loving turn when we both said yes to Ttwd. We work hard keeping our love, marriage and roles true to Ttwd. It takes lots of work and communication. I can see the nodding of heads in agreement.
We are handling a great deal concerning extended family and the coming holidays. Think countless texts, emails, phone calls, coffee chats and more. We have been somewhat bombarded. We were handling it all, but not really taking care of one another. We worked side by side and finally, things seemed to settle down. Instead of turning toward one another, we found ourselves distancing in a way we have not experienced in a long time. I knew we needed to communicate and Jack knew it too. Still, we did not turn to one another. What's going on? Side by side, we seemed to be ignoring one another. Ugh!
Finally, Jack brought me to my sitting spot and we began talking. He told me he wasn't going to let this situation go much longer. Yes, there were tears, and touching and getting it back together. It was a rough 48 hours or so. We both did not like it. When the talk was over and the tears were dried, we went to our bedroom and enjoyed one another and even managed a wonderful good girl.
I experienced 48 hours of our old ways and I did not like it one bit. The distancing and not turning toward one another just plain stinks. Ttwd takes lots of work and telling it like it really is needs to be told. Yes, there are sexual fireworks and peace. The work required to get to that point is hard. It is never about the spanking. It is about the communication and the roles we have accepted.