Thursday, November 16, 2017

An Extraordinary Epiphany And LOL Days





I am glad you have stopped by today. Please say hello or send me a quick or long email. It is a safe thing to do. If you want to know the truth, all ttwd bloggers at one time were exactly where you find yourself today.......... reading a post, wanting to say hello and worrying about taking the plunge to just say hello. We love our lurkers and want to say thank you for stopping by. 


I have changed and by a lot. On this my fifth LOL Days, I want to share my epiphany moment when I fully realized how much I have changed. Actually, my friend Laurel wrote what she saw in me. 

 I have written many times about being a military spouse of a reserve officer. When Jack was deployed to combat zones and here stateside for two years after September 11th, I kept those home fires burning. I was his equal partner. I handled all things on the homefront as all military spouses do. There were power struggles when homecomings happened. We worked hard to manage that struggle. However truth be told, Jack usually gave in to what I wanted for the sake of peace. We lived on the east coast for a number of years after the initial two-year separation. While living back east, we each had high powered careers which required dedication and long hours.  We began that brother-sister period I have written about before ........  loving one another, but living without the magic and sexual fireworks of our early married years. We were always looking out at the many exciting things we did while living on the east coast. Homecomings always reignited those fireworks, but then things would slip right back into a two-career path. Our energy and focus were not on one another.

Enter ttwd and all that changed. As Laurel wrote, your experiences, your struggles, your story....... it was as if the two of you stood against the world, facing the chaos, and then turned toward one another.  Your resilience, strength, compassion, faith and hope were now right there. Then I gave Jack my submission not needing to keep those home fires burning all on my own. Giving my submission to the one I love was a real epiphany. The epiphany is ......... giving Jack my submission and letting go of the control.........  a true epiphany for me. His lead and his determination to keep me safe while loving me thoroughly became the foundation for our ttwd. My sincere gift of submission changed our marriage like nothing else. To pivot from controlling to leaning in certainly has its rough moments. Spankings do happen, but so do lots of loving and caring times. The longer we do ttwd, we know it is who we are not what we do. 

Thank you, Laurel, for your ability to point out the obvious to me. 

Thank you for stopping by. Please leave a comment or send me an email. Bloggers depend on your feedback. Without the feedback, why post at all?




Meredith



38 comments:

  1. Love that Laurel is a little star in this welcome to new readers. It is lucky that she is heard through you, Mere, and her comments, too. She is able to speak the truth in just a few well chosen words.

    I will never be able to say all the wonderful things I learned after I came to visit New Twist.. for the first time. It was a safe place and an honest story. Thanks will never say all I feel. Hope lots of new friends will take that step, too.

    Hugs From Ella

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    1. Ella,
      You are so sweet in the things you write.
      You are important to me.
      M

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  2. Wonderful Laurel pointed out how you've changed Meredith. Hope you have a fabulous time over LOL days and meet new friends. I always love visiting your blog.
    Hugs Lindy xx

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    1. Lindy,
      I sincerely hope that you have made some Aussie ttwd friends.
      M

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  3. What a lovely post, Mere...always enjoy reading about you and Jack. So happy you decided to take the plunge and start blogging...such a wonderful addition to our blogland family. That Laurel is a very wise woman and a wonderful addition to blogland also...she comes up with the best pictures and quotes! Happy LOL days!

    Hugs and blessings...Cat

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    1. Cat,
      Thank you. You might have Leah mixed up with Laurel.
      M

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  4. Hi Meredith, lovely post. I know you very often are a big support to newbies behind the scenes, I hope lots more join you today out here.
    love Jan, xx

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  5. Hi Meredith, what a lovely post. Isn't it wonderful when friends can point out how we have changed. We can't always see it clearly ourselves.

    Happy LoL Days :)

    Hugs
    Roz

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  6. Meredith hello, what a lovely post. Like Jan I know you give great support to new bloggers. I hope you get a lot of lurkers come out and say hello.

    Happy LOL days.

    Love,
    Ronnie
    xx

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    1. Ronnie,
      I love new bloggers. They become seasoned bloggers very quickly.
      M

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  7. Great post. I don't comment a lot so I guess that makes me a lurker too, sometimes, but I wanted to wish you a happy LOL Day!

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    1. Thank you for stopping by no matter who you are.
      M

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  8. Meredith, I’m so glad I introduced myself to you two years ago on LOL Day. I very much value our friendship and hope you will find more friends over LOL Days 2017.
    Rosie xx

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    1. Rosie,
      Once you were a new blogger and now you are my sweet friend.
      M

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  9. I'm always by when you post. I believe blogging is definitely a growing experience.

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  10. Your story has always amazed me Meredith. After the strength, courage, and independence you had lived with for so long, that when all was said and done, you chose submission. It is definitely a beautiful one.
    Thank goodness for this little blog and the encouragement on an LOL day to take the leap. I’m smiling big time right now! xo.

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    1. Laurel,
      I did choose submission giving away all that need for control. Thank you for you help and comment.
      M

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  11. Hi Meredith, Love hearing about your journey and the changes that have happened in your life. Happy LOL Days! Hope you have lots of visitors. Hugs

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  12. Hello Meredith,
    Yes, you have changed (I know this because I've read way, way, way back) and there is so much value in your stories because we all face uncertain and uncomfortable times but you stand tall and share with us how to move through, gracefully. I've learned so much from you.
    Amy

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    1. Amy,
      You are very kind with your words here. Thank you!
      M

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  13. Love you, love your blog, and love your journey. Happy LoL day

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  14. Well, I am not exactly a lurker anymore as we do exchange occasional emails and you are always so kind and open. It is always much appreciated. I'm also not a blogger - especially as there isn't much to blog about since it's been at least a year (I think more, actually) and we haven't quite figured out our own personal dynamic. Still, it is blogs such as yours and your willingness to engage with your readers that allows us to dip in our toes. More importantly, you have helped to increase the intensity of our relationship. We communicate, communicate, communicate. So many thanks to you.

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    1. Deena,
      I love reading your sincere comments. You are very kind with your words.
      M

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  15. Always have enjoyed your story, M, and love that you choose to turn towards one another. Hope you're enjoying the LOL day party! We're gone this weekend and I'm just now having a chance to pop in. Have a great time!
    --Baker

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  16. Happy LOL Days, Meredith! :) I've always loved the story of your love, and how what you have learned to do, has made all the difference. I'm very happy for you and Jack.

    Love your LOL post! Love reading here. So very glad to have you as a friend! Enjoy the celebration! Many hugs,

    <3 Katie xxx

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    1. Katie,
      Loved what you wrote! Thank you for your kind words.
      M

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  17. Happy LOL day Meredith, what a great blog you have!

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    1. Daisy,
      Thank you for the compliment and for stopping by.
      M

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  18. Meredith:

    Happy LOL days to you and Jack!!

    Rick

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  19. Hi Meredith,
    I have loved reading your ongoing story and how you and Jack have grown over the years. Your love still shines brightly...blessings

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  20. Hi! Hoping to do more than lurk in the near future. Appreciate you and your posts!

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