Monday, September 18, 2017

Going On and On and On and On and On............






I do not know of very many ttwd wives who have not been right there in that exact same spot I was in.  After more than four years of living a ttwd marriage, you would think I knew better. Right? Some things are just too important to let go. You have been heard and decisions are made, but then you want to make your point again, and again and again. 

I was nagging. I went on and on and on about something Jack was well aware of and had already made his decision. However, I could not and would not let it go. It was too important. I cared too much. Jack told me several times to cool it. I ignored him and continue to harp on my opinion and my point of view again and again. He said enough and had me in my sitting spot in a heartbeat. 

Now things get dicey. Things can go one of two ways when we are right here. If attitude is everything, I blew it big time. Jack had me upstairs in that same heartbeat. He spanked and told me there is no going on and on. So believe me, I was one sore wife after that spanking. Again, these do not happen often. I need to remember that going on and on leads to some very unpleasant soreness. 

So I want to know if going on and on and on is acceptable at your house? I have a feeling it is not. LOL  It certainly is not acceptable here. 


Thanks, L. 
Meredith

33 comments:

  1. So sorry you had to revisit that lesson, Mere. Nope...going on and on was never a bright idea around these parts unless I was lookin' for a barn burner...which I never was! Hope everything else is going well.

    Hugs and blessings...Cat

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  2. I can't let things go either, however in this house, Ray just usually walks away. I seldom follow

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  3. "Amy Lynn! The horse is dead. Quit beating it or I'll take a turn beating you." might have been said at my house a time or two. ;) maybe three times. okay, four.
    Amy

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    1. Amy,
      Oh, the words of ttwd. They can stop you in. your tracks.
      M

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  4. Hi Meredith, I think he is used to it by now and just switches off....
    love Jan, xx

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  5. Hi Meredith,

    Ooh, hard lesson. I'm sorry you went through this. Letting go, letting him lead and accepting his decisions is the hardest part of ttwd I think. I think most of us have been there. Going on doesn't usually bode well for one's backside lol.

    Hugs
    Roz

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  6. Going on and one is definitely a no-no in our house.

    Love,
    Ronnie
    xx

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  7. Well I've just read the lady's point of view, now one from a spanked husband. I too have done that from time to time and you would think I would learn. When I do that there is no warm up spanking. My bottom meets the wooden spoon, followed by the hair brush, then the strop and belt and lastly the whip to give me a few welts. Some times it's best to keep one's mouth shut.
    archedone

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    1. I have a very sincere question. Is there a point after which this life style crosses into physical abuse? Wooden spoon, then hair brush, then strop and belt, then whip? For what? I don't mean to be judge-y. Just asking the question because I have often wondered if there is a line anywhere that when crossed morphs from a self-selected life-style into abuse.

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    2. Yikes! That doe not happen here.
      M

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  8. Mere,
    I think it was when you said above, "Some things are too important to let go," that I knew you had probably stepped in some ttwd doo-doo.

    Things have gone better at Sam and Ella's house lately because I have adopted a new system to make myself stop just this type of problem. It has worked right alongside some advice from a wise friend about controlling my temper. Perhaps it is time to share this secret with my mates. I feel a post starting to take shape.

    Ella Thinking

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    1. Ella,
      Watching what we say and not going on and on are so important. We shoulder a lot.
      M

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  9. Mere, really?....you know Jack as in KNOW Jack is only going to let it go on and on for so long. So sorry,but I know all has been set right.
    Mignon

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  10. At my house, going on and on means the same thing as it does at your house. It's only tolerated for so long. I'm usually pretty good but I do have my moments! Glad to hear there is peace in your valley again.

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    1. Laurel,
      When I slip up, it is because I feel it is so important.
      M

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  11. No,just the same in our household. Give the right answer when asked if I'm done all is fine, one further word on the subject then I'm in trouble. Frustrating isn't it when you want put your point across. A

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    1. A,
      It is always that one final word that gets us in trouble.
      M

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  12. That's a big no-no here, too. And I'm notorious for wanting to go on and on and on...until everyone agrees I'm RIGHT! Oops...WRONG!
    SSB

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  13. Hi Meredith, :) Oops! Sorry that Jack put a spanking end to whatever was on your mind that day!

    I'm notorious for this, and it doesn't happen that often these days. Not about nagging really, as I'm not much of a nagger. More about something that has been worrying me, or upsetting. After spending some
    reasonable time talking about the issue, it is either "Move on America" or "Downstairs, Young Lady"! ;) Many hugs,

    ❤️Katie

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    1. My notorious friend,
      Yes, we have all been there. I do love "Move on, America".
      M

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  14. I'm very good at going on and on and on and on... My sweet husband has little use for it. I don't get anything resolved with my nagging and carrying on, just more wound up than when I started.

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  15. And this is why I read your blog regularly. I'm not a believer, but I love your writing. You are very good -- sometimes almost lyrical. :)

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    1. Dear Annon,
      Thank you for your generous praise. I appreciate it very much.
      M

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  16. It wasn’t unusual when Master made a decision I was unhappy with, for me to go on and on, nagging, sure I was right. Then I’d get spanked for nagging. Then I’d pout and get spanned for pouting and since I’m a very slow learner, id stop talking and get spanked for my attitude after I was told to “cut it out”. I never learned. Over 15 years together, it happened on a pretty regular basis.

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  17. Let's just say that going on and on doesn't happen in the same way here...

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