Saturday, September 9, 2017

Confident Sensuality........... Me?????





Earlier this summer, I wrote about visiting a dear ttwd friend. Jack and I had a wonderful time. While visiting, we talked .......... a lot! We talked about many things including our favorite books. She asked if I had read this book, Remarkable Creatures. I said no, but I had read The Girl With The Pearl Earring by the same author. She insisted that I take this book home. She said it was one of her favorite books and she highly recommended it. I tucked it into my carry-on and began reading it while awaiting my flight. 





I have seen the cover of this book many times both in bookstores and book reviews I read. I have been intrigued with the drawing of the two women at the water's edge. What are they talking about? What are they looking for? 

The power of their friendship is strong. These two women form a solid remarkable friendship. The story is told in first person as each of the two women tell the story. Main character Elizabeth introduces readers to new characters by discussing the dominant trait of each character. She tells us that her dominant trait is her eyes always focusing on the unusual. She connects each character with what she sees as their dominant traits. So interesting!

If I were a character in her book, what would she say was my dominant trait? What would she say was yours? Is it your smile, your handshake, your shyness, your thoughtfulness, your kindness? 

I think I lead with my sincerity and generosity....... but really .... my most dominant trait really must be first observed by others. Right? 
You really need to ask someone close to you what they see as your dominant trait. 

Jack was quick to share what he thought was my most dominant trait. He said I lead with my confident sensuality!!!!!!! What?????
I told him that he needed to explain what he meant. Here is what he said. 

Mere, your confidence is a part of you that you display well. Your sensuality has to do with how you present yourself ........... the way you dress, how you put yourself together, your makeup, your confidence and comfort with the body you have, and the way you express yourself in speaking to the world. 

Believe me, all of this was way too hard for me to digest. I was dumbfounded and speechless! When I look in the mirror, I do not see confident sensuality. I see flaws ....... the muffin top, the inability to use eyeliner without making a mess, wearing my exercise clothes too long into the day, and the list goes on. I must clean up well. Jack sees me and he likes the way I am always striving for improvement. I just do not see it. I am my worst critic. 

Now it is your turn. Ask others or decide for yourself what is your dominant trait. Is it your hair or the way you handle yourself in a tense situation? Is it your voice or your self-expression? Is it your generosity or your stubbornness? This is an interesting question to think about. We do not share our photos here on these ttwd blogs, but we can share the traits we have. Think about your dominant traits and share in the comments. We all look forward to reading one another's comments. 

Meredith

21 comments:

  1. Meredith,
    As you know I have read this book and I loved it. I'm so glad that you've also read it and enjoyed it enough to write a post around it.
    I loved the friendship between these two remarkable women who shared their love of fossil hunting, and who provided this interesting question of yours.
    What do I lead with?
    I would say my smile and my sincerity is foremost when meeting someone but my sweet guy has come up with something else. He says that one cannot go without noticing my hair! Then he added to it saying that my hair, my beauty, and the entire package was upfront and centre to all who meet me. Now he does make me laugh at times and he may be slightly biased but I'll take it!
    Thanks for writing this post, and for the record I think that you are quite remarkable!
    XO

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    1. Laurel,
      I agree with your husband. Your hair is beautiful. I do like your smile. I do like your entire package....... your thoughtfulness and never ending support and love.
      You, too, are remarkable.
      M

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  2. What an amazing compliment from your Jack. He sees you in a way that you don't - how beautiful is that? I haven't asked yet...not sure I want to know the answer ;)

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  3. Jack is certainly right...I saw that immediately when I met you.
    I'll have to ask K that question.
    SSB

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  4. Hi Meredith, I hadn't heard of this book. What a fantastic question and I just love Jack's answer. We definitely don't see ourselves as others do.

    I would say my height and feistiness would be the first things people notice lol, but I haven't asked yet.

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. Roz,
      Thank you! I like that you find yourself feisty.
      M

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  5. Hey there,
    I read the Girl with the Pearl Earring and I enjoyed it quite a bit. I'm reading The Whistler by J. Grisham now but when I'm done, I'll pick up the other. Looking forward to it.
    We've only been in touch recently but for me, your dominate trait is your willingness to share your own life with others in order to make ours better - and you do that with your posts, your personal email, your openness and your honesty. Thank you!!
    Eric has been gone so much lately, when I asked him my dominate trait he said, "you're a sexy little minx". Hmmm. Not really. Just think it was the moment I posed the question. LOL. We'll see what he thinks after being home a week and I'll get back to you. :)
    Amy

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    1. Amy,
      Thank you for your kind thoughts. Ask him again and come back.
      M

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  6. I asked my hubby and after a lot of thought (what was that about) he said my openness. Surprised me because I see myself as an introvert. What do you think Mere, is Ray right?

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    1. SG,
      I know that man of yours. I agree with Ray for sure.
      You....... an introvert?? No!
      M

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  7. What a sweet man your Jack is! Those books both look good too!

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  8. Your Jack sees the real you, Mere and isn't that a beautiful thing. Now please see yourself the same way.

    Hugs and blessings...Cat

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  9. Mere,I see you as a listener. You take in so much from the people around you and then percolate like a little coffee pot. When you are done brewing, you share a delicious friendship that warms up the people who know you.

    I loved reading what Jack had to say. I will have to ask the same question of Sam.

    Ella

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    1. Ella,
      You always have such an interesting take of things. Ella. Thank you for your kind thoughts. Ask Sam and report back, please.
      M

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  10. My weekend was a bit chaotic, but I still wanted to get back to this post. For you I'd say it's your interest in people. You ask questions AND you listen to the answer. You make a person feel heard. That's a wonderful trait.

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    1. PK,
      Thank you! You are very kind. I do listen to you! Now you need to ask Nick and report back about your trait that give s you confident sensuality.
      M
      Meredith

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  11. Hi Meredith!:) I love Love LOVED Jack's response to your question. Beautiful!!!

    I asked Rob when we were in the car. He said that I lead with kindness, caring, passion and a hard work ethic. He reminded me that he has always said, as a manager, that he would love to hire ten of me to work for him. He does say that to me fairly regularly. Usually when he becomes my stop button, and tells me that my work day is over. LOL! I SO love that spanky man of mine! Fun to think about, Meredith. Many hugs,

    <3 Katie

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