Tuesday, April 11, 2017

Next Question Answered..... ... From A Reader Turned Dear Friend

This question comes from a very important and good friend. Her pen name is Laurel and she is a sweetheart. She and her husband are in a ttwd marriage. By summer's end, we will have visited one another for the second time. She asked a question and we laughed about how we thought all the questions between us had been long ago answered. She came up with a good one that requires some reflection and research.

Laurel would like to know what my three top posts are. Yikes! There are 367 posts. Some posts embarrass me and some posts are funny, now that enough time has passed. Some posts are mundane and some are excellent if I do say so. Between the mundane and the excellent are lots of so-so posts.

I researched my own blog going deep into my own archives. I have done some cringing rereading some posts and laughed when reading others. I had a lot to learn and I can see my own growth reading what I wrote. My strategy was to read one post a month. It took awhile, but I am amazed at what I learned. Here is what I found: I have really changed. I have learned to lean into Jack's lead. I have become more respectful. I do think before speaking right off the top of my head. 

Picking three favorite posts was now a tall order. I am ready to share.

First up was written in December of 2013. It was Christmas time and we had been a beginning ttwd couple since that June. What a six months we had lived!! The post is titled Leaning Into Jack and this post reflects where we were at that time. Looking at the blog as a timeline turned out to be very interesting. You can find that post here.

Next, I found a post from March 2015 that several people have commented on included Laurel herself. We were on another sun break golfing in the sunshine. Even though I have had golf lessons, I am awful. I need to practice, practice, practice. So when we are on a sun break, we golf together. Amazingly, we have never had an argument on the golf course. Jack is a great golfer and I completely recognize this. The whole round was spent in instruction and I listened well and Jack praised my efforts. I did not get frustrated and listening was the key.  The post is titled The Perfect Place To Practice My Submission and you can find it here.

My final offering is my personal favorite because Jack and I learned so much from the experience that I wrote about. The whole world stopped and we saw for ourselves that ttwd was working and working very well for us. No bottom was spanked! The post from September of 2016 is titled Learning Something New About Ttwd and you can find it here. I remember this post as if it happened yesterday. The whole thing was very emotional and so good for us. 

Thank you, Laurel, for your excellent question. 

Thanks, L.


  1. good for you for going through all your many posts to choose your favorites...I do remember those posts and agree they were great...then again, I enjoy reading all your posts :-) Hugs

  2. I love it when Laurel comments at my place. I love the post you picked. Sometimes I find an old post I like and re-post it as a Throw-back Thursday. I wish everyone would do that on occasion because I know I've missed some great post over the years. I have plenty to choose from 2098 post to be exact.

  3. Loved this question from Laurel. Without a hesitation, my favorite of those 3 posts is the first one. When I first read this, I had never made a comment anywhere in blogland. Still looking for that pair of shoes that were just right!

    It was the first time I had ever heard the words, "lean in." I read every post you had ever written, but this one stands out. Jack still should get an award for being able to talk the talk.

    Ella Finally Found Her Perfect Shoes

  4. Hi Meredith, nice posts , all three of them.
    love Jan, xx

  5. Meredith, you've chosen three amazing posts here and as you know I've always, always loved the one about your submission on the golf course, it's simply beautiful. After rereading each of these posts I realize that the final one stands out to me in a very powerful way. It speaks so well of how ttwd works in many ways and I really loved reading it again. It has definitely tied the golfing post for me. They equally move me in a way that I can't describe but feel deeply. Thank you so much for sharing these moments and answering my question.

  6. Loved this post, and the three that you referenced, Meredith! :) All posts are different in terms of circumstances, but all show such learning and growth, as well as the different ways that ttwd comes into play for you and Jack. Excellent!

    My fav out of all of them is the third one. To me it shows a variety of skills that you both have learned over time, and now can call upon when something really rocks your world. You came together and worked through it respectfully, and lovingly using all that you have learned the last few years. That is really special! You should be proud, Meredith. You both should. Heck! I'm proud for you!

    I've gotten to know Laurel a bit, over time, and she is a lovely, kind lady, whose comments in the land are wonderful- thoughtful, as well as heartfelt! Thank you, Laurel! :)

    Great question, and loved your answer Meredith! Many hugs,

    <3 Katie

  7. Wow Mere...what a lovely way to view your journey. You chose 3 great posts...you two have come so far and it's been lovely to watch. Thank you for sharing your journey with us.

    Hugs and blessings...Cat

  8. Great posts, M. You certainly have grown over these four years, showing us an authentic, committed, ever-growing, and persevering relationship.

  9. Hi Meredith, I love this post. The three posts you have chosen are great and really show how you and Jack have grown in ttwd.

    It's a wonderful exercise to look back over previous posts and to see how far we have come :)


  10. M, I've read all your posts and it was good to revisit these three. The last one is my favourite too; it shows that communication and strong leadership are every bit as effective as spanking. The ttwd toolbox contains more than physical remedies!
    Rosie xx