I often think about this life I lead, this ttwd life. This man of mine really likes how this works for us. He says daily that he likes me "freshly spanked". He says he loves and enjoys the results. He has a calmer wife. I think Jack was surprised the first couple of times he spanked me. I know I was. We both found this reigniting of passion amazing, not gone or dormant. It seemed like what we had as two young marrieds. Finding we could capture and enjoy this passion all over again was wonderful. Imagine finding something that makes it all new and fun again........ that is what we have and we treasure it.
When we decided to take this path, it was a new and exciting time. After close to four years, it is simply who we are now. We live it, but do not talk about it as we once did. I have learned so much about many things. And I have learned a great deal from you.
When I was first blogging, I had a dear friend. She was a fellow blogger and she told me that ttwd was now an integral part of who they were. She decided to take her blog down. I asked her if she was going to still read the blogs and in particular, mine. She told me no. We parted ways and I miss her. If she were to read this, perhaps she might decide to write to me. We shall see.
I received an email from a long time reader. She lives far away from us and the chance of meeting one another is slim, although still possible. She has kids at home and in college and is a busy wife and mother. I just love her. Our lives have now crossed over to the real side and we enjoy one another on FaceBook. We love supporting one another and becoming one another's biggest fans.
This reader wrote an eloquent paragraph about her marriage and ttwd. I asked her if I could share it with all of you, and she graciously said yes. Here is what she wrote:
It is a strange thing- the way our men become so attractive when they are letting us know we are about to be spanked, huh? Sometimes I simultaneously feel annoyed and rebellious (just to be honest!) -- but, even then, there is a level of feeling attached to him that can't be denied. As I 've told my husband several times, as much as I do not want to be spanked, I also long for the reconciliation and peace that comes. Sometimes I feel a physical longing for it........ which, the first few times, made me feel almost convinced I was crazy! LOL! I would know it was coming and we would have to wait, (as we do most times), until there are time and space for it, and I longed so much for the outcome that my body would actually long to be over his knee, getting things done. The thing is, there has never been a time it didn't bring us completely back together, completely resolving the issue. It happens every single time.
I find these last two sentences so true. What about you?
Ttwd is not what we do. It is who we are. What about you?
Then my sweet friend Laurel wrote to me. Actually, we are always writing, but this email fit right into the essence of this post. She generously said yes to my sharing what she wrote.
I absolutely agree with this statement. Ttwd is not what we do; it is who we are. It has become so natural that we don't have to think about the workings of our marriage anymore; that is just how it is........ how we live, eat, breathe, play and love. Ttwd is all encompassing. It's so much who we are that it is a deep, inherent element in our life. We believe in it, we grow with it, we trust it. It takes care of the most precious of things....... us. It is just who we are now. First by choice (and always by choice), but now simply because after living this way, we see there is no alternative or going back. I think we are always aware of ttwd and always are striving to make things better holding dear to the good things it brings.......... better communication, affection, respect, consideration, caring, loving and peace. By no means though is it easy. It requires commitment, work and a lot of listening for it to keep afloat. You have to want it and need it deeply. When I talk about roles, I don't feel that word is accurate because we are not playing roles here, but living our lives honestly, but when writing, it makes it easier to use that word. It is hard to put into words the peace and love felt living this way. I feel it in our marriage daily and with all my heart.
There is nothing sexier that a husband spanking his wife.
Thank you, Jennifer and Laurel. You both wrote inspirationally.
In the end, this ttwd becomes a part of who we are as a couple. It is simply just who we are!
How about you?