Tuesday, March 28, 2017

Snuffing Out The Little WildFires

I have had this post on my mind for a while now, but no photo. Although L. scopes out most of the photos on this blog, I felt this is one photo I had to find myself. Wildfires.......... like in this very photo here can turn into a big blazing mess. Right? 

Smoldering................ wildfires can ignite into a huge bonfire...... right

Then we really have a problem. It is time to call in the help of a childhood folklore figure..........

We have been in a wildfire patch here. Little skirmishes can lead to big bonfires. I kept remembering good ole' Smokey the Bear saying "Only You ............". I had the distinct feeling that Smokey was talking to me when he pointed that finger right at me. I did not want a bonfire, out of control igniting from smothering small fires. 

So enough with photos and this small fire analogy. We have had a series of small, but real differences of opinion and points of view. I had not been listening carefully. I had flitted from one thing to another, not paying attention to Jack. Things were getting dicey and my guy was not happy. 

Then I just stopped. I knew exactly how all this bickering would end. I decided to ask for a meeting in his arms and at our sitting spot. We communicated for quite awhile. I listened and soaked in what he wanted. I did not interrupt. I remained calm as we sat close. Jack listened to me. I looked my husband in the eye. I remained respectful. We settled a few things and no one was spanked. Then the talking was over and so were all those pesky small wildfires. 

So much of ttwd is about communication....... talking and listening going hand in hand. Many couples have forgotten how to do just that. Give it a try. It works. Plus then you have a happy husband.

Ella wrote a comment on my last post that maybe you might have missed. She wrote that ttwd now becomes ttwa......... that thing we are! I do like that a lot. Thanks, Ella! 



  1. Hi Meredith, I do believe you may have just saved your behind!
    love Jan, xx

  2. Beautifully written. Powerful lesson. /G

  3. Well you sure do practice what you preach! Glad it worked out so well!

  4. Yeah for communication!!! Keep those spankings on the GG level, Mere. TTWA...I like that!

  5. This is a beautiful example of what ttwd is all about, Mere...communication! Spanking is really such a small part of the overall dynamic.

    Hugs and blessings...Cat

  6. Hi Meredith, good on you and Jack! Glad your bottom was spared. Communication is so important in any relationship.


  7. Wonderful you saved the day with communication Meredith and avoided a spanking. That's one benefit of TTWD the way we can discuss situations.

    Hugs Lindy xx

  8. Glad you liked that new little acronym, Mere. Your last post was inspiring. This one really reveals who you have become. Jack, too, I suppose.

    Totally loved the reference to wildfires, as well! The smoke alarm is quiet at your house.


  9. Nice work there, Meredith! :) 3GA all the way!!!

    Ella's acronym is a good one- that thing we live!

    They teach you stop, drop and roll - to put out a fire on a person. For a "small fire" that is about to become something bigger, we might remember stop, talk and listen. Or something like that... Glad that all is well over there! Many hugs,

    <3 Katie

  10. I absolutely loved this post and so agree. We are also finding ourselves in this situation. Once again, communication is the key and time for us to have a heart discussion.

  11. This post was very impressive and includes some sage advice for all of us. I know I will try it next time the wildfires hit my house. It's so great to read about these examples of how far your ttwd has come and how it's evolved into ttwa. Thanks for sharing this.

  12. Another inspiring post, Meredith. It's too easy to let the small stuff build up into a big showdown. Well done in dealing with this before the fires got out of control, a great example for us all of how important communication is.
    Rosie xx