For more than a month, a reader of my blog has been writing me. We have exchanged emails now many times. She and her husband are beginning a ttwd relationship and it is in its beginning stages as they try to figure out how ttwd works best for them. She asks many questions. Many questions I have already answered in the posts I have written. So I asked her to read the blog from its beginning to see how Jack and I have changed, how we have become more self-assured about following ttwd and how indeed ttwd has changed our marriage. I gulped when I made that request knowing that to start at the beginning of the 300+ posts would take a real time commitment. She told me that she would do just that. Some time past and then she wrote me back. She thanked me for answering many of her questions through the posts written. She had read them all!
She has not secured a pen name allowing her to comment on my posts, but says she is close to doing just that. In the meantime, she continues to write to me. I wish I could say that I have convinced her to become a blogger. We need new bloggers as so many have left blog land. We are on a wait and see plan hoping she will say yes to joining us.
So upon putting up my last post about my Amazon order episode, she wrote to me this amazing analysis. I was blown away by her insight. Here is what she said.
Thank you for sharing your Amazon story. I really get it that it is hard for you to share those kinds of spankings. It is odd, but I find comfort that you have not reached perfection in this lifestyle. I like knowing that it is okay that even those that have it together most of the time, still mess up. It makes this type of life obtainable instead of some lofty dream that we will never reach. Yes, things are relatively smooth and peaceful for you and Jack, but I like resting in the knowledge that I do not have to ever think this story ends in a wife so obedient she loses her identity, her personality, herself, but rather that she just continues to grow more peaceful and loving. That in a few years, spankings decline and the sweet ones reign most of the time, but that it's okay to mess up. That he still has you. Perfection is not the goal, but harmony and peace are. We can strive for that in our marriage.............................
Well written and with great insight, this person wrote what she felt in her heart as she works on the initial ttwd period of her marriage as she and her husband chart their way. See what I mean about her being an articulate writer. Thank you for allowing me to share a portion of your email to me. I think my readers will appreciate hearing this comment. Thank you!
When we began ttwd, I was having a hard time with depression and felt literally rescued by Jack saying yes to trying ttwd. The journey was not without its bumps. Now things are so much smoother. The bumps are few and far between now. So very happy and in love with my Jack after all these years............. We love our roles and try our hardest to lean into them each day.