Friday, July 8, 2016

Whistling On His Way As You Replay Again And Again What Happened!

When I began blogging, I wanted to write and later meet women who were in ttwd relationships. I offered my email address and asked those interested in friendship to write. Bloggers became good friends, but so did a handful of readers. I love them all. They are important to me. Now three years in, I am meeting some of these bloggers and a few friends. These reader friends took a chance and decided to write and we have been fast friends ever since.

One very good friend Laurel emailed recently that she and her husband had a really rough day. This day involved several spankings involving distancing and disrespect. She could not seem to recover from one spanking without causing the next. When things did calm down, she emailed me and this morning, we talked on the phone.

Even though yesterday was rough....... on her bottom, things were completely back to normal today. She said that even though yesterday was really hard, they came together this morning cuddling and making love. He had brought her back on track, peace was re-established and roles were evident and in place.

My friend said that her husband held himself in the most self-assured way. Loving and confident, he wore his role with gentleness and strength. What about my friend? She said she slipped back into her role as a submissive, supportive wife easily. Why? ........ because this is what they both wanted, but sometimes, she needed reminding of the promises each had made to one another when they began ttwd. However, her mind kept replaying what had happened again and again. She looked at her husband noting that he was playing things forward. He had moved on and was not dwelling on what he had done concerning her spankings. The situation was over and all was well. She said the strength and confidence her husband showed to keep them on track made her fall in love with him all over again. In fact, she confided that when she replayed what had happened, she appreciated his confidence and even found it to be sexy. 

My friend says that when she asked her husband if he thought about what had happened, his answer was short, direct and hilarious. He told her that no, he did not think about it at all; it was over and taken care of and did she want BBQ sauce on what he was about to grill?

Thank you, Laurel for sharing BBQ sauce and all.  Your guy does indeed know how to play it forward once there is peace. 



  1. Mere,,this is a sweet posting,, : - )


  2. He sounds like quite a guy. They are both lucky.

  3. Nice way to move forward. What a sweet couple.
    Hugs Lindy

  4. Ah, the beauty of a ttwd relationship, it gives us a way to move forward. Rick was also far quicker than me to move forward lol


  5. Ahhhh.. I loved this Meredith. Just like our men to step up and do what is necessary to restore the peace and then simply move on as though nothing ever occured. Sounds like something that could happen in our home. Thanks for sharing Laurel's story.

  6. Hi Meredith, I think generally women always think about things more, men do seem to have the ability to move on much quicker
    love Jan, xx

  7. Loved Laurel's story. At times I do carry around my guilt even after a spanking. If I apologize again, Sam will look surprised. "It's over," he will say. One of the best parts of ttwd.


  8. Meredith,
    Another excellent example of how ttwd works. Thanks to Laurel for sharing her story.
    Rosie xx

  9. Meredith - wonderful post. Thank you to Laurel for letting you tell this story. The self assured nature of our husbands is so vital in this relationship. It was good for me to read this today and be thankful for that part of my life. As usual, thank you for sharing! ~ Jennifer

  10. I think this is fine as Laurel and her husband presumably practise quite formal did, but it wouldn't work for everyone. I have noticed how much Dan and I have changed our dynamic over the years. I seem to have gone from someone who would argue about submission till the cows come home, to a pretty much submissive wife. And I revel in it. Can you believe it?!

    We just don't seem to have many issues these days, and because I have started to just love that burn as leather or wood met with soft skin, our sessions can now get quite intense.

    They say TTWD constantly evolves, and it surely does.

    Many hugs

  11. Warm fuzzy feelings right here in my tummy reading this! Thank you for sharing.

  12. Hi Meredith, :)

    Thanks for sharing Laurel's story. Very sweet! I do think it is true that guys tend to move right on, while we might chew things up and swirl them around for a while before we swallow. That is sexist, I know, but I find it to be very true, in a lot of cases.

    Sorry that Laurel had a multi spanking day. Those are no fun. The cool thing is that their dynamic brought them together, instead of apart, and they were able to move on... and eat bbq! Very cute ending! Many hugs,

    <3 Katie