Monday, April 4, 2016

Us Against The World




Sometimes life is just hard. Pulled in many directions, trying to make everyone happy, this just all wears me out! 

We had a delicious drawbridge week-end and now life goes on.  The things were handling have settled, but we are frazzled even after our drawbridge week-end.

Does anyone out there do meditation that really makes a difference?  Sleeping is so erratic. I woke at 3AM and did not get back to sleep until 4:30AM. Then I slept too long and work up not feeling well. Coffee, hot and frothy and things are fine. Jack has offered lots of spankings. Yeah, right! 

In times of stress, prayer works and so does exercising. A glass of wine and some music work wonders too. Journal writing is soothing. However, I need a few other alternatives as we begin the week. Any and all ideas are appreciated. Soaks in the hot tub are great, but I am thinking about mindfulness activities you do to soothe and keep the world at bay. Tell me! 







Thanks, L.
Meredith

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  1. Meredith, I don't know the source of your stress, of course, but I, too, have had recent serious stress over difficult decisions I have felt compelled to make.

    Then, at about 3:30 in the afternoon last Thursday, 3/31, I was driving home from the mall when I heard a huge, huge explosion, like a bomb probably sounds, and realized I was no longer in control of my car. I had no idea what had happened, and I'm sure I blacked out temporarily.

    Long story short, I was making a left turn and the back passenger side of my car had been hit full force with the other driver going about 45 or more mph and not even pausing before hitting me.

    But for the grace of God, my seat belt, and my air bag (same for the other driver), I would have most surely been dead or, at the least, seriously injured. Same for the other driver.

    As I sat stunned in my car before anyone got to me, looking out my front window at a ditch I did not go into, my car completely turned, having no idea what had just happened, I can tell you that nothing mattered -- nothing -- but my two children. Nothing. Absolutely nothing. If I died, and I thought I might, they would be devastated, and my worry was for them. Nothing more.

    I was taken to the hospital by ambulance. The other driver stood outside watching. We were both conscious and fine. I was trembling violently. He came up to my stretcher and I hugged him. He whispered in my ear, "It's only a car. It's only a car." The state policeman came to the hospital. His last words to me were, "You were lucky." Believe me, I was beyond lucky.

    In the ambulance, my BP was 200/100. All I could think was I can't have a stroke. I MUST calm down. I focused on the beautiful blue sky, calmness and beauty in an attempt to meditate my way down to some sense of calmness.

    I certainly don't recommend anything this dramatic as a strategy for managing life, but it was mine. What really matters? Not a whole lot. My life is forever changed. I died last Thursday and was born again.

    I am praying today that whatever is interfering with YOUR peace - or anyone who reads this - can be brought into perspective as you consider deeply and prayerfully -- what really matters. What really matters? Last Thursday, I got that answer and literally everything changed.

    Much love, G

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    1. G,
      Please email me. My email is on the right side of the blog.
      Meredith

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  2. Hi Meredith, :) Awww! I'm so sorry that you are going through a tough situation! I hope that things improve for you ASAP! <3 I hope it is okay, but in my thoughts on your question here, I will respond to G, who has left her story above. I think that she has given us all a really good reminder of what is important. xox

    Dear G,

    I am SO very glad that you are okay, after what sounds like a horrific experience! Someone was watching out for you- that is for sure!

    You have reminded us all about LOVE. I'm just sorry that you had to go through what you did, in order to do that. What really matters are the people that we love and care about. What really matters is how we make them, and others feel. You are right. It is all that we have.

    I recently read an article... somewhere... about a young man that was dying. In his article he spoke about his life as it was, and what he thought was important. He talked about the importance for him of leaving the world a little bit better because he had been in it. It was very powerful!

    My Dad used to say that how you make people feel is most important. He was onto it! My mom used to say that when life seems tough, go do something for someone else, it will make them feel better, and ultimately so will you! She was right. I taught those words of wisdom to my children. I hope that they pass it along. It is something good to try to think about during tough times.

    G, I am very glad that you are okay! Thank you for reminding us all about what to focus on- those that we love and care about; that there are hard times in life, but we will and do get through. I have had a course in that whole thing over this past year, sadly...

    Feel good and thank you for sharing with Meredith and all of us! How lucky we are to be able to love! Many hugs to you, and Meredith too!

    <3 Katie

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    1. Thank you, Katie. I opened Meredith's blog again to delete my post. After thinking about it, I decided it was too long and may have been a little preach-y. But if it sent a loving message, then maybe I was too self-conscious about it. Your comments meant a great deal to me. Thank you. And maybe I won't delete it after all! G :) :) :)

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  3. Mere,,love the photo you picked out. I can see if I can find some peaceful photo,,just for you

    L.

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  4. Oh I am sorry it is a difficult time. I am probably not the best to give advice about relaxing - I am almost always in fight or flight mode. Instead, I'm just sending my support and a hug across the country.

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  5. Hi Meredith, I am so sorry you are struggling to find peace and sleep. I too have these issues, I find my thoughts instantly turning to my mum as soon as my eyes open, no matter what the time. I have taken to getting up and getting a warm drink and then reading my kindle. If I can escape into a book for a while I sometimes can go to sleep for a while. Like you I then feel lethargic in the morning. I wish you lived next door we could be night owls together.
    G. I am so glad that you survived the car accident, you are right , nothing matters compared to that. I hope you feel okay soon
    much love to you both
    Jan, xx

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    1. Thank you English Rose. I love England and love reading your responses. All is well. My heart is full. Best wishes to all of you. G

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  6. Hi Meridith, I have done mindfulness meditation off and on for the past 15 years. When you are practicing it is never clear if it is making a difference to things like stress, BP, sleep etc. but when you stop you can feel an almost immediate negative effect. So give it a try.
    Most Buddhist cenres run courses that are affordable and it is my experience that they do not try to force their beliefs upon you. Worth a thought

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  7. Hi Meredith, we could have spoken across a sleepless night! Sometimes when I am so stressed and panicking I turn on binar meditation music. It helps slow my heart rate down. Sometimes I pray, however the meditation music truly helps me.

    G, you really made me think. I am so happy you escaped serious injury. What you shared is so true! We often get caught up in our stresses and it is good to get perspective. I'm not saying our worries are not important, but to remember to try and give it up and focus on the here and now.
    Again I'm happy you are safe!

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    1. Thank you, Minelle. Obviously, I love Meredith's blogs and feel like I know all of those who regularly respond. Bless you. G

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  8. Hey Mere...sorry you are still stressing. I'm also a member of the sleepless night club...sometimes I listen to music, sometimes I focus on counting my blessings and sometimes I just get up and find something to do. Tai Chi helps me relax...when I remember to do it and concentrating on laughing rather than crying also helps. I know others who have used yoga. Sending lots of positive energy your way.

    Hey G...sorry you were in the accident but so happy you avoided serious injury. I think you reminded all of us of what is important.

    Hugs and blessings...Cat

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    1. Thank you, Cat. The responses to me have been so reassuring. Actually, I have read some of your writing. You're a lovely lady. Blessings, G

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  9. Meredith.. Times of prolonged stress are difficult to handle as I experienced last year. Eating right, getting regular sleep, exercise are all helpful. So is just spending time in quiet reflection, focusing on the positives and less on the negatives will help you move ahead. Remembering this saying.. "I am more than enough just as I am." Listening to quiet music or even enjoying the silence around you allows your mind to rest. Prayer is essential as you are never given more than you can handle. Know I am here for you and can reassure you these troubled waters too shall pass

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  10. Mere, sleepless nights are rough. So much thinking going on. Whether you want to or not. Even thinking about not trying to think happens. Sigh. I always try deep breathing exercises where I visualize parts of my body relaxing as I breathe out. Yoga during the day helps, too. I'm not sure why but maybe the stretching of the muscles?

    All will be well, Mere. I love that you pray. It's so important. Find joy and be thankful, as I know you are. This will all pass by and be water under the bridge soon. Xoxo Maggie

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  11. Hi Meredith,I'm glad you and Jack had a great drawbridge weekend.

    I'm so sorry you are dealing with so much stress, Sleepless nights are not fun, something I know well. I really hope things ease soon.

    G, thank you for sharing your experience. Gosh, how very scary. I'm so glad to hear you escaped serious injury and agree, you reminded us of what is important.

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. Thank you, Roz. The comments from so many of Meredith's friends have meant so much to me. Blessings, G

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  12. Mere, I think I would agree with Katie's advice the most. Purposely spending some hours giving your time to someone else can fill you back up with happiness. It is very difficult to give all of yourself, mind and spirit, but it will mend a tired body most quickly.

    I always like to think that even though I am just one little person, I can touch other's lives with kindness and leave them better off than they were.

    You have a remarkable ability to view the world with clarity. Time to put the drawbridge back down and venture forth.

    Ella Ever After

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  13. Meredith, I practice meditation and find it very helpful. Sometimes it seems to work better than others though. I have some boji stones which seem to do amazing things.
    G I"m glad you survived your terrible accident. It takes something like that or a health scare to put things in perspective.
    Hugs Lindy

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    1. Thank you, Lindy. I have been deeply moved by the responses from so many of Meredith's friends. They have brought me great comfort. You are all such lovely ladies. Blessings, G

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  14. Mere,
    I'm so very sorry for this difficult time for you and Jack. My heart goes out to you even as I don't know what is happening. It sounds like you are doing all the right things, and the one you didn't mention that you are doing...reaching out to your friends around the world who care about you.
    And what a testimony of perspective and grace, G. Thank you for sharing.
    Meredith, when you have done all you can do, know that there might not be a way out of your struggles right now, but you are making a way through. And one day, the lessons you learn will help someone else who desperately needs that beautiful compassion that can only be shared by someone who's really been there.
    I so wish I could be with you right now. Know that I'm here for you and praying for you.
    Love,
    SSB

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    1. Thank you, SS B, The responses from Meredith's friends have been overwhelming. I'm still very shaky, but won't be overcome. The kindness expressed to me through Meredith's blog have meant the world. Blessings, G

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  15. I find that doing mindless things but being mindful of them is very relaxing. Colouring is very cathartic, it quiets me and I simply enjoy it. Unfortunately I don't get to do it as often as I would like to but I think that for these things one must also make time. It's like nourishing the soul-centreing yourself with those quiet moments, and sometimes they just happen and you have to take that deep breath and appreciate them. There is light at the end of your tunnel, things will improve and get easier, positive thinking does wonders for us.
    So happy that things went ok for 'G' as well, what an experience that must have been, truly life altering..thanks for sharing as well.
    XO

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    1. Hello Laurel, Thank you for your kind response. I will have to say that Meredith has an amazing group of blog-friends. "Life altering" is absolutely correct. Blessings, G

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  16. So sorry for all you're having to deal with. I, too, suffer from insomnia. I also have bouts of depression and panic attacks.
    I know my body well enough to realize that without a decent night of sleep, i am even more prone to panic attacks. Therefore, i take medicine (trazadone) to help me have sound sleep.
    Stress still happens, though. I still have 4 kids at home (ages 7-19.) About 2 years ago my hubby started mandatory date nights with me. Whether it's a run to the store, dinner, or just a ride, we do something alone. Also, about 7 months ago, i asked him to start a TTWD life. He has come no where close to agreeing to it yet,but he will spank me when i ask. He won't let it go until i cry, but it does help.
    I do breathing, walking, reading, essential oils, and a few other common stress relievers, but alone time with hubby seems to be best.
    I still have hopes for a TTWD lifestyle, but i understand my husband's reasoning, and won't push it with him.

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  17. coloring, zen tangling (like meditative doodling), listening to calming music, I do Reiki which is really calming - even just holding one hand to your heart and one hand to your belly as you breathe deeply can be calming, someone taught me a little tapping technique to help bring you into balance and I find that is simple and helpful (I think it is called Emotional Freedom Technique)...now if I could just get myself to take the take to practice these ideas in moments of stress... I hope you have found some calm. Sending best peaceful wishes to you...

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  18. G...glad you are okay...thank-you for the reminders of all that is important in life

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    1. Thank you, Terpischore. Your response was very helpful to me. Blessings....

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