Friday, April 1, 2016

Raise The Drawbridge Week-End

............. and let the rest of the world go by..............

The sun is shining, the birds are singing, but Jack and I are handling some big things here at our house. I am going to dance around the subject as it is no one's business but ours.

Grateful and thankful that we are doing ttwd............ the spanking part is fun or serious or necessary. However, I am talking about the leaning in, the communication and the teamwork of ttwd.

We worked together and when I hit a rough patch, Jack was next to me to provide strength, advice and stability. We would regroup and keep going steady and together.

On the third day, after a big day of decision making and many hours of work, we went to bed early. I climbed into bed next to Jack and just simply cried. I thanked him for his guidance and level headed approach, his steady plotting to steer us in the right direction. I thanked him for his calmness because when he was calm, I can mirror his mood and keep going.

On the fourth night of this situation, I went to bed, but was not sleepy. I just wanted distance from the situation we were dealing with for a little while. It would all be waiting for me in the morning. I opened the window letting in the fresh spring breeze. I climbed into bed and read my book. About half an hour later, Jack came in and walked right to the window. He began to close it as I announced that I wanted it open. He told me, as he latched the lock that the window would be opened again in about ten minutes. I glanced into his eyes and knew where this was going.  "Out of bed, Meredith", he said and over I went for a stress relief spanking that was indeed earned and greatly needed. He spanked and talked about keeping my temper and my attitude in check. We still had miles to go before we could sleep as the saying goes. Bottom roasted and into bed I went. Jack opened the window and the sweet scent of the evening came in to cool off my rear end. 

As the week went on, the whole process was taking its toll. By Thursday evening, we had still more to do, but were exhausted. On we went. Then this morning, I read Rosie's blog post about a drawbridge day. Read her post right here. Rosie's analogy is perfect......... no one in and sweetly, no one out! 

I began to plan as only a loving wife on a mission can do.  I would go to the store purchasing some goodies and favorites. I would spring my plan on Jack. We would have ourselves an open drawbridge week-end. I called a few people to move around times of some get togethers.  Things are in place and we really need the time to regrouping, having fun and just being us. We will put all the issues we are dealing with aside for a little while and turn towards one another. Raise that drawbridge and let the week-end begin. 

Thank you, Rosie for an idea shared from across the pond!

Have you ever had a drawbridge week-end? Share! 

Thanks, L.


  1. Sorry to hear you're having a rough time Meredith. Pull up that drawbridge and have a loving, peaceful, time together.

  2. Hi Meredith, I hope the drawbridge weekend helps you both.Have fun!
    love Jan, xx

  3. You will get through this together and be all the stronger for it.

    I know well what it means when the door and windows go closed on a warm day or night.

    Sending Positive Thoughts,

  4. Hi Meredith, I have been awol for some time and just now getting back to visiting some blogs.

    I'm sorry you and Jack are having a difficult time at the moment. A drawbridge weekend, what a wonderful idea. I hope it helps you both and that you have a loving weekend re-grouping and concentrating just on you.


  5. Gosh I am sorry! I know you two are a wonderful team, but that doesn't mean it's always easy!
    If I can provide a smile let me know!

  6. Meredith, first and foremost, I'm so sorry for whatever it is that you and your wonderful Jack are going through right now. I can feel your ttwd-gratitude in every word. What a beautiful analogy - and thank you for Rosie's post - about the drawbridge weekend. We actually just had that kind of day after a super-hectic week that's supposed to be our "spring break"?? I'm glad that you and Jack can stay close through the surging tide that will eventually subside. And you two will be more than ships passing in the night in the end. As always, you inspire me.
    Love and Blessings,

  7. Hey Mere...sorry you and Jack are having a rough time with whatever you are dealing with. What a lovely surprise for Jack and I'm sure you will both benefit from it. When the boys were young and we didn't have a lot of money, I used to plan midnight picnics for us after we had put them down. Have a lovely drawbridge up weekend!

    Hugs and blessings...Cat

  8. Meredith.. I am sorry to hear that you and Jack are going through tough waters right now. Its hard when you both are having a difficult time, but the good news is you both are able to lean on one another and support each other through the challenging times. I am glad to hear you are making the time for some down time for you both to re-group. Relaxation and laughter are the best things for helping to get back on track.

  9. Hoping you hit calm waters soon. Life can be so complicated. I'm glad you have your way to do deal with life that works!

  10. Hi Meredith, sorry to hear you and Jack are going through a rough patch. Hope its solved quickly. Love the sound of your draw bridge weekend. Enjoy!
    Hugs Lindy

  11. Awwe Mere.
    You know the saying Life is like a roller coaster...... Well, I hate roller coasters! Hehehe. Some people like the valleys, some like the climb of the hill, some like the peaks and then some like the descent. No matter where you land here, it is always easier when your marriage is at a place in which you can have a drawbridge weekend because that is the marriage you have worked for.
    So, while I am sorry that strife has reared it ugly head once again in life, it is great to hear about the solid foundation you guys have in your marriage.
    Thank you for your continuing inspiration and reminders.
    Your writing blesses others.

  12. Mere, my heart goes out to you and Jack right now with whatever you are struggling with. Please know that you are in my thoughts. I'm so glad you two got to have a drawbridge weekend. Lean in....just keep leaning in. xoxo Maggie