Sunday, April 17, 2016

A Little Peek Into Our Bedroom

Jack has said many, many times that peace in his valley is about the little things. Sometimes when he says that, I let what he is saying float through my brain and it's gone. Most often, I take his little things to heart. 

In honor of the little things. I am writing this post doing a little thing that is different............ I am enjoying a cup of tea. My real life friends would be shocked as they all know I live for my coffee. However because I am writing about the little things of ttwd and the ways I have changed, I thought changing an early morning ritual would show all of you that change can and does happen.

We are away this week and friends join us tomorrow.We head home on Wednesday and here in the sun, life is good. So I have had time to think about lots of things and every once in a while, something happens that clearly reflects how things have changed for us.

Again, it is the little things that are so telling. I have become less feisty. Have you ever felt like you have stepped outside your body and can now observe yourself as you go about your day? I do that all the time because I have really, truly changed and I see myself doing that. Now I do stumble from time to time, but for the most part, I lean in as Jack calls it. So here is what happened last night as we went to sleep.

The lights were out and it was late. We had sat outside watching the stars, talking quietly. Then Jack said he was ready for bed and he pulled me up from my chair and said it was bedtime. When we travel, we go to bed at the same time. So we got ready for bed, and Jack said that I was his 3GA. Sweet! As we quieted down, he suddenly got up and turned off the AC saying it was too loud. I complained that I needed the cool air. He opened the sliding glass door a crack telling me that would have to do. Again, I complained. He climbed into bed and pulled me close pulling back the lightweight blanket. Hand on my bottom, he said we would begin the night that way. I still was huffing and he spanked in the most quiet of ways knowing we have others close. He told me to settle down and he pulled me close again. Then you know what I did? I settled down next to my husband and stopped fussing.

Now wide awake, I thought about what would happen before ttwd. I would have wanted my way. More negotiating, more arguing and often, that sweet man of mine would just plain give in to keep the peace and get to sleep. I am the one doing the changing and he is the one leading. A very small thing to be sure! In the morning, I asked him about what happened. He said he expects me to lean into those kinds of decisions. He then said and if today is much warmer, we will see about using our small fan as he knows I do get warm. To me, he shows consideration and leadership and his love.

Do you see the little things as markers to your leaning in and your progress in ttwd? Tell us.

Now I will go make a cup of coffee. 

Thank you, L.


  1. You write beautifully. I do love reading your posts. Thanks for taking the time to do so. G

  2. Today turn the A/C on very cold as long as you're not sleeping. That's what I do, I can't stand the noise either.

  3. Ahh, sweet. Good for you guys!


  4. Mere,,this is so sweet,,,coffee anyone,, : - )


  5. I learn something new from you every time I read your blog. Mostly - we both have a long way to go

  6. Very sweet. I can relate and it's a good feeling ... though I do have my moments. ;)

  7. Leaning in, as you say, and accepting the little things absolutely shows change, progress and commitment. It's not always easy to do but doing it and respecting the others decisions lets us both thrive in our roles and that makes for smooth sailing in my house. Another thought provoking post Meredith. thank you!

  8. I agree with leaning in and accepting the little things, Mere but gotta tell ya...that is one decision that I would have pushed back hard on...respectfully, of course. ;) I can't sleep when it's hot and the white noise of an AC unit or fan actually helps me to sleep in a strange place.

    Hugs and blessings...Cat

  9. Meredith,
    Those little things add up to a lot don't they? It was Harry's growing assertiveness in small ways that led to the shift in our dynamic. I think I've said it before - great oaks from little acorns grow.
    Glad you're having a good break in the sun.

  10. This made me smile Meredith, and you're right, it's the little things, that actually aren't so little because they mean so much.


  11. You are so good at explaining the little things in the context of the bigger picture, Mere. I am smiling.

    We spent part of our weekend cleaning and sorting in Sam's study. He is a bit of a pack rat, and every so often we sort, so he is not buried in books and paper. There were so many times I wanted to take over and do this my way. Instead, I said, "How can I help?" It is a little thing that is very hard for me. I do understand your point in this post. Thanks.


  12. Hey there Meredith.. a bit late in reading as we went through bad weather this weekend. This post just made me laugh in a good way. You have such a way of discussing situations that make it easy to relate to. Sir asked what I was laughing at so I decided to share your post which then in turn opened up some great conversation for us. It will be the subject of my next post. I,too, have trouble sleeping when I am hot and to make matters worse,I get grumpier than heck. Hope you have cooled down and are enjoying some coffee now! We do have more of a give and take relationship now with ttwd, Sir has always been a giving person, I am getting much better at placing his needs above mine. Great post. Thanks for sharing as always