My sweet friend Katie says her Rob uses that phrase all the time.............. kicking up her heels! I think he uses it in both a positive and negative way. Feisty wives are kicking up their heels and wives who face the big world ready to take on the challenge kick up their heels. This post is about the former, not the latter.
So earlier in the day, First Ella wrote a post. Then just a few hours later, Katie followed with a post of her own. These posts center on trust and love, giving up control in a respectful way. It is how ttwd is suppose to work. Both posts are powerful and showcase the stumbling of wives who ideally want to give up control, but have a hard time doing so in real life. I read the posts intently and Jack, looking over my shoulder, asked about the content of each post. I loosely filled him in, and made my comments.
We were up early as we had an appointment with our financial planner. I showered and fixed us some breakfast. Then Jack showered and we were both getting dressed before eating our meal. I was downstairs setting the table and then went upstairs. He had made the bed, but one of the decorative pillows was set in the middle of the bed. Jack walked from bathroom and met me at the side of the bed. As I was asking why the pillows were arranged in this odd way, he took off my robe and had me over his knee in a hot minute. Hand spanked, I was told to remember who the hoh was in our family. He wanted no interrupting and I was to lean into what he said at the meeting, not the other way around. He stopped spanking and reached behind him and took out the wooden hairbrush from under the pillows. The spanking that followed was fast and furious. I buried my head in the duvet and prayed he would stop. When he did, he brought me up to his knee and kissed me. I was very teary eyed. Was I clear about what he wanted? Yes, I said. Then he said I was now his 3GA.
So in my Q/A post, I had just written that things were mostly smooth here. Not so this morning! Jack wanted me fully aware of what he wanted from me and the best way to get his message across was over his knee. Boy howdy~
We have saved our money from very early in our marriage and this financial planner has invested our money well. I think she sensed the change in us today as Jack did most of the talking and I supported him each time he made a point..... all the while sitting on a sore bottom which had received a mighty big RA just a little while before the meeting.
Jack said there would not be any kicking of my heels. He wanted a supportive, submissive wife and he had made sure that was his wife understood. Sometimes this ttwd is not so easy, but things do have a way of working out. I so want to be the one leaning in. I do want Jack to lead and be in charge. Things do get mixed up sometimes, but my spanky man knows how to set them back on track. His last words to me as we were about to walk into our financial planner's office: no kicking up your heels and remember your bottom!