Sunday, February 21, 2016

Clamming Up Is Not Good

I have a lot to say about clams. I love them. I love them in chowder, hot and buttery. I love them with linguine, served in the shells, drizzled with butter, white wine and garlic. I love them in chip dip. I love going to the market to buy them, sometimes all netted in the cold water tank at the fish market. I like crusty French bread and a glass of cold white wine served with my clams. The clams must be small. The baby ones are delicious. 

The part about clams I am not thrilled about are two-fold. I am not fond of clam digging at the cold ocean beaches. Buying them at the fish market makes much better sense. 

The other part about clams I do not enjoy is the ttwd part. When I clam up and refuse to shrug off what has happened, or become silent and withdrawn when decisions  do not go my way, the clam analogy gets me spanked in a heartbeat. Clamming up is spankable. In fact, it is a surefire way to end up over Jack's knee. He is quick to notice it and even quicker to act on it. I am not allowed to clam up. If I do, I am spanked and mighty fast. 

So where are you on the clams and the clamming up. Do you like clams? Is clamming up spankable at your house? 

My husband wants me talking, not clamming up and he knows how to make that happen if I choose to clam up.  I will not need to worry about hot chowder, warm clam broth, or chip dip. I will just need to worry about holding still over his knee. 

Thank you, L.


  1. Hi Meredith, :) I LOVE clams too! All kinds of them- especially steamed, or raw on the half shell with lemon, horseradish and red sauce! YUMMY!!!

    The clamming up thing is not so good because as we get this intimate with TTWD, we try to share everything that we can. In doing so, our men (or partners) can help us to deal with whatever it is. Glad that Jack helps you out with that one. OUCH! Not glad for your behind though!

    It's funny but I tend to do less clamming up and more going on and on at times. That will get me into trouble quite swiftly! I have learned, especially in the last year, with so many things going on, to tell Rob how I feel or what I need. He helps me when life is tough. It makes a huge difference- even at the expense of a spanking. So lets eat clams and not do clamming up! LOL! I LOVE clams! Great post! Many hugs,

    <3 Katie

  2. Mere,,,this was a very good post,,love clams.


  3. Clamming up is definitely spankable here, thankfully I don't do it as often as I once did. My guy will can talk now or you can talk over my knee, take your pick, but I don't always have the choice!
    Do enjoy clams every now and then. Great post, love the blue with the pictures. Xo

  4. Great post Meredith. Have to admit I've never eaten a clam but have definitely clammed up and been spanked for it.
    Hugs Lindy

  5. I really enjoy clam chowder although I don't get it very often. I am someone that definately clams up and shuts down when I am worried, upset or angry. We haven't really addressed how doing so affects our relationship. More often than not, I find myself in trouble for going on and on about an issue rather than saying my piece and leaving things alone. We are currently relooking at how accountability is being managed. I know when I do withdraw it causes problems so I think I may add this on to our discussion time. Great post. Hope you are able to enjoy your clams in peace and not with a sore rear end!!!

  6. Hi Meredith, never eaten one in any form. I would however get spanked for clamming up. It's not very likely though, I am more likely to talk too much
    love Jan, xx

  7. I don't eat seafood of any kind, so clams are never on my menu. Clamming up doesn't necessarily lead to a spanking here. Sometimes TLC works better than OTK.

  8. Love this analogy. Don't care for clams at all myself. I am, however, in the gifted range on clamming up. This weakness of mine lands me in "hot water" quite regularly. Pun intended.


  9. Great post and I can totally relate! I have an awful habit of clamming up when things aren't goung my way or when I'm frustrated and flustered over something. It's a surefire that ends with me over my hohs knee real quick too! On the other side of this, oh yes! I love clams and could eat them and scallops everyday if I could!

  10. Give me oysters any day. They're hard to open too.

  11. Clams, crusty bread and a cold glass of white wine perfect. I had clams and mussels Saturday evening. No calming up here.


  12. Hi Mere - oh, I love clams! Fall clam bakes are a family favorite. Clamming up on the other hand leads to hurt feelings on my end and eventually on his side because of how I shut down. I haven't gotten spanked for it directly yet...but I have received a spanking for doing something and then not telling him, knowing he will be disappointed. One part of my version of clamming up.

  13. Another lovely ttwd post of "The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly." I'll take the good. Clamming up is not necessarily spankable at my house, but it does get my HoH's attention mighty quickly.
    Hugs to all,
    P.S. Now I'm hungry!

  14. If I clam up its usually because my guy has not recognized something very important!
    I'm usually if the, going on and on and on variety. That may be when I'm OTK!
    Love Clams!!

  15. Love, love, love clams! Clam chowder is my absolutely favorite way to eat clams. Oh yes...clamming up usually earned my tushie some attention of the unwanted kind. ;)

    Hugs and blessings...Cat