Monday, December 21, 2015

Salad Dressing And TTWD

The Saturday before Christmas .............. a busy time of getting many things done. Rainy weather and close quarters, too many things to do, grouchy and irritatable, all the ingredients for things to go wrong and go wrong they did. 

We were working on dinner together and I was making a salad as Jack was grilling shrimp. He watched me pour salad dressing on the salad and yelled, "Stop! That is way too much". The fact that he actually yelled is very unusual. Sadly, I yelled back defending what I did. He slammed down a cooking utensil on the counter and things suddenly and dramatically got real quiet. Icy quiet! We went on to eat dinner........... in complete silence. No words were exchanged at all. We had each screamed at one another and now it was real icy in our world. We cleaned up the kitchen as we always do. No words were spoken. 

I worked right next to Jack literally shaking my head. How could such a great day go wrong in a hot minute and what do we do now? I was upset with Jack and he was upset with me. We both had yelled at one another and the evening stretched out before us. Ugh! 

We then went to watch some TV. Jack asked me to sit next to him and I moved just a little. Then his eyebrows did a conversation all on their own and I moved closer. We watched our show and then we watched another. Still silence between us. TV turned off and we went upstairs. I went into the closet to change for bed and he followed. He took me in his arms and we began to talk. First he apologized for his sharp tone and for raising his voice. I immediately apologized for raising my voice. We continued to talk, and I felt peace and love as I nestled right into his chest. Before ttwd, this kind of situation could have turned into a real mess between us. Now we each apologized and kept our arms around one another. 

After the sweet talk, he did pull my sweats down, panties too, and smacked my bottom three times to let me know............. what....... that I was loved, that this was over and that we had done well at recovering, but he was still the boss. 

Thanks, L.



  1. Mere,,that was so sweet,,,you both have grown and I could feel the love,good going.


  2. Good for the two of you! It's great when you both accept responsibility for things going wrong and realize that only a few loving swats are all it takes to remind you of your roles. I love this!

  3. I agree with Sunny...All's well that ends well. Oh BTW...was there too much dressing on the salad? ;) My way of dealing with that, especially since each member of my family liked different dressings and I don't care for dressing at all, is to serve it on the side. LOL

    Hugs and blessings...Cat

  4. Hi Meredith, oh the stresses at this time of year! To yell about the salad dressing made me laugh. it must have been a really busy Day, ;)
    love Jan,cc

  5. Hi Meredith, ugh, definitely the time of year for short fuses. I love how you both handled this though and that you both apologised and that peace was quickly restored :)


  6. I was going to say what Sunny said....alls well that ends well.
    Hugs LIndy

  7. Hi Meredith, oh my, this week i s very busy, isn't it? Sorry that you had this salad-moment (must have been really stressful for both of you, to yell over the salad :) ), but actually Jack and you had a good way of getting out of it. I love how you found back to each other and that you have such a lovely connection. This is wonderful.



  8. It always seems so wrong when there are no words between us. The longer it goes on, the worse it is. Give me a spanking over silence any day.

    Glad you are both back in stride.

    Merry Christmas to you and Jack!

  9. Yay for ttwd...and for all the ways it puts things behind you.
    Merry Christmas, Jack and Meredith.

  10. I don't remember the first time, but I do know it's incredibly important for me to have his hand when we are out and about or just sitting next to each other. Keeps me grounded and I feel comfortable and more relaxed. There is something about that physical connection that is meaningful.