Saturday, November 28, 2015

Synonyms And Metaphors Galore

We do not live in a valley.......... like Napa with its vineyards, or Sacramento valley with its fields of growing crops and orchards. Our valley is not the Shenandoah or Big Valley of old movie fame. We do not live in a valley. No, ours is Jack's valley. You won't find it on any map. Somehow, when things get rocky here, he immediately asks if we have peace in our valley. The valley is not mine, believe me. It is his metaphor for harmony.

Jack always says the peace in our home begins and ENDS with me.  When things are getting dicey for my end, he asks me if we have peace in our valley. His idea of peace is one sweet wife and harmony all around. And that is usually the way his valley is.......... valley is a synonym for our home!  It is a clear and certain metaphor that is not lost on me.

Jack uses this metaphor all the time. He asks if we have peace when things get dicey. He talks about peace when we are in the car. He talks about peace when I am over his knee......... when we are playing or when things get serious. 

Just yesterday, Jack said "Mere, do we have peace in our valley?".  My head came up quickly from what I was doing. When Jack uses my blog name, I pay attention. However, he uses that name all day long, but not with that tone of his. My eyes were big with astonishment. I do know what Jack means when he says that. I quickly changed my attitude and there was peace. No spanking required. Peace reigned in our valley. 

We all use symbols. Katie and Rob use the ever popular list and the metaphor about "kicking up heels". Jace and Portia use a dance card metaphor. Jack and I use the infamous score card. So metaphors are right there. Peace in the valley is the way Jack expresses it at our house.

So what I want to know is whether you and your guy have a metaphor used to symbolizes harmony. 


We go to bed earlier when the night comes so early. The other night I told Jack that I was sleepy and thought I would go to bed. He said, "It's ten minutes to eight."  Whoops! Nonetheless, we are in bed earlier than we are when we have those long, beautiful twilights. 

So consequently, I am up earlier. This morning, eyes open and it is dark. No light on the horizon! I quietly get up and go downstairs to make coffee. The sky is beginning to lighten now. I quietly enter the bedroom only to hear a big voice coming from under the duvet. "Mere, do I have peace in my valley?" I giggle and cannot escape a big hand that pulls me into bed for some sweet loving which includes some fun spanks. Coffee can wait.


  1. Meredith, I love all of these posts, I'm having a hard time keeping up there are so many. Don't stop you're on an amazing roll!!
    Love the metaphors used in your house. Could the word 'closet' be used as a metaphor, because I hear it all the time!

  2. Hi Meredith, I love how Jack checks in on you that way. Hubby uses different metaphors, the list is one that he has used rather often, and he also uses the peace metaphor occasionally, though not connected to the valley. :) The early bedtime and getting up early sounds great, and I love how you and Jack turned getting up early into such a wonderful morning.



  3. I love your and Jacks metaphor! Sweet post!
    My Scotsman and I were trying to think about a metaphor. Neither of us could think of one even though I am quite sure there is one.
    Maybe he just says it straight out, i.e...."you getting too big for your britches?"...with a wide smile!

  4. You and Jack have lovely ways with your metaphors and other sayings. I can't think of one we use in our house at the moment.
    Hope you have a nice peaceful valley all week.
    Hugs Lindy

  5. Aw nice post Meredith, there is peace in our valley at the moment too1
    love Jan,xx

  6. Love this sweet post Mere...wishing you and Jack nothing but peace in your valley. ;)

    Hugs and blessings...Cat

  7. Meredith, I just so much love the sweetness of your words. God Bless you !!!


  8. Aw, this is amazingly sweet. So much to learn from you both.

  9. Such a pretty post. You really are on a roll.

    The only phrase I can think of that gets used fairly regularly is, "Do you need to talk to Mr Paddle?" That is probably more personification than metaphor. Nevertheless, it is usually a good reminder.


  10. Here it's "we'll have an important conversation about that," or "I have what you need.". Of course everything is code language with our kids around! Jennifer ~

  11. Beautifully written. I've actually read it several times since you posted it. The very words that you use are peaceful. I am so grateful for your writing. Thank you.

  12. I can take care of that right now if you need me to.. is all too frequently said here. Are we clear is another... we need to talk also comes to mind. There really are several and they also quickly catch my attention as I clearly know what will follow. I love how our men have a way of bringing us back when we stray.

  13. Mere, this is a lovely post. I most especially love the postscript. We don't have any phrases yet...haven't worked ourselves into that position at this point!

  14. I hope that someday all that is needed is just a question of peace at our home. You and Jack are the epitome of ttwd. Beautifully worded post.