Friday, September 18, 2015

That Uncomfortable Feeling Persists








I received an email from a blogger who has chosen to be more silent than active. I really like her and we have exchanged lots of emails. She recently wrote to me saying that she feels too exposed as if a bunch of strangers are watching her life.......... nameless, faceless people from around the world. Trust me here, it is a very creepy feeling. 

I have been blogging for over two years. I have seen bloggers come and go. I am beginning to understand the part about going. I have had heavy traffic on the blog. With fewer blogs, the remaining blogs here are getting more attention. This does make me feel uncomfortable. 


I keep my blog open. I choose not to go private as I want others to see that ttwd can be fun and marriages do improve. We went from okay happy to big time happy. 

Ttwd is really about communication. If my blog helps one marriage stay the course, then my blog will have served a purpose. If one marriage goes from mundane to fireworks, I will be satisfied. 

We do not do DD with its punishments and strict rules. Instead we found our own way in ttwd. We do not use the word punishment ever. So what Jack and I present is a way to enjoy fun spankings and keep the course to peace and harmony. It really works. DD couples seem always way too harsh for my liking. 


Talking with other bloggers and my readers who email, I think I write about an alternative that works well for us. I encourage others to give it a try. Couples need to find their own way in ttwd. 

It is the lurkers that are constant, never coming forth that really bug me, and make me think about not continuing. We shall see. 

Meredith

22 comments:

  1. Hi Meredith, just thought I would have a quick check you all where ok but you sound a little down regarding your blog which does not seem like you? We are still away but I will be in touch once we are back. If it is any help as once a lurked I found it good to know I was not on my own and it took sometime before I plucked up the courage to comment and as you known I then panicked. Xx

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  2. I mostly lurk here...mainly because I am not in a DD relationship, more of a D/s and feel a little out of place. But I do know many others who read here and get a lot from what you have written....
    hugs abby

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  3. Mere,,I do hope you keep this blog going,,but that would be up to you. You have and ,,heres hoping will do a lot of good for others. You know how I feel.

    L.

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  4. Hi Meredith,
    I guess you consider me a "lurker" [I don't really like that term]! My husband and I have been doing ttwd since January, and I check to see if you have a new post every day! I read your whole blog from beginning to present and it has been very helpful! Thank you for sharing your journey! We have been together for 37 years and our "new twist" has brought us into a whole new dimension of intimacy. I have noticed that you, Ami, Megan, Ella and Jason's girl don't seem to be posting as much as previously, and I am really sorry about that! So even though we may not comment much, we readers do appreciate you guys and hope you aren't quitting! There aren't really any "how-to" manuals on how to revive an imperfect marriage and cause it to become all it was truly meant to be, so reading your success stories is very encouraging!
    Sincerely,
    Ava

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    1. Hi Ava, I am sure Mere will not mind me writing here. Just to let you know that we all value your comments and the fact that you take time to read our posts. Sometimes life just gets so busy and hectic that we are not always able to post as often as we would like to do. I think you will find that people tend to post more during the winter months. I am sure that I speak for the others when I say that we ALWAYS welcome comments from folk like yourself. I do hope you are doing okay with TTWD. Should you ever want to email me, I will always reply, as, I am certain, so will the others. I hope you see this comment. Thanks, Mere for letting me butt in! Many hugs all around, Ami

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  5. Hi! I am definitely a lurker - a daily one. My husband and I are new to this and we are both "older" so your blog is incredibly helpful. We are struggling to find our way so reading this is beyond helpful. I have a blog about a different topic so I understand what you're saying, but you are definitely helping people. I'm sorry I don't usually comment. It's just that I'm rather ignorant about this whole thing so I'm not sure my comments would be worth much, other than to say thank you. Which I do. Very much.

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  6. Meredith, a very thoughtful post. I have never liked the term "lurker" either. Seems to have a negative connotation, like one is doing something a bit devious. I thought of myself as a "learner" for sure. There was this big wide world out there that I never knew about. I just soaked it up like a sponge. I read and read and read. And then I decided to write just one person. That person was you, because you were special and genuine. Never doubt the monumental impact you have on the women who visit here. You have a gift.

    Fondly,
    Ella

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    1. Oooh, I like the term learner better.
      Thanks for that gem Ella
      Alice K.

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  7. Meredith, thank you always and again for putting your and Jack's marriage out there. I think I can understand how you feel, because it has taken me a lot of nerve whenever I have first written to a blogger. But you were the first blogger to help me feel totally comfortable with corresponding, and my husband and I have benefited greatly as a result.

    Even though we choose dd over just ttwd, we can still support each other. As you have often said, each couple finds their own way. We love fun spankings, by the way.

    As long as you are here, your supporters are here, cheering you and each other on.

    Hugs,
    SSB

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  8. Yes I am a lurker more than a commenter but it isn't to creep anyone out it is because I dont have anything to add in ways of a comment. I dont feel like repeating over for the dozen time what someone else has already used as a comment. This is why I lurk more than say anything on anyones blog.

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  9. Hi Meredith, I used to be a bit scared of the whole public thing but really I only have a select group of readers who I know consider friends so I am not too concerned about it. There are a few blogs that I read and don't comment on but it is only really that I have nothing to say, I am just seeing how the other half lives!!
    love Jan,xx

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  10. I'm a quiet reader (much nicer term than lurker) and your blog is one that I greatly admired as it represents the best of TTWD for me, since we're not into DD.
    Not long after I started my blog, I decided to switch off search engine indexing. I probably don't get as many readers as many bloggers as I can't be found easily. I value the ones that do take the time to find me and continue to read, whether they comment or not. There are fewer of us bloggers compared to when I started, and it's a challenge keeping going too.

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  11. Meredith,
    I have lurked and when I felt brave enough I began to comment. It's only because of you and your blog, and the constant sincerity and genuine feeling of it all that made it a comfortable place to do so. Your invitations to write, respond and comment have allowed me to open a door that may still be closed otherwise. Thank you for continuing to write and blog, it has made the world of difference to me.

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  12. I really enjoy your blog but don't feel I have anything interesting to say most of the time. Keep up the great work and know you are appreciated.

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  13. Hi Meredith, I love what you write about ttwd and can only agree with you on how it works and on the good it does. I have not worried much yet about lurkers and simply hope that sooner or later some might comment. It would scare me if one would knock on our door, but since the number of readers in my blog is rather small I feel safe in blogland. It is a wonderful outlet and I only wished I had more time for it.
    I have already seen some blogs close and in some cases this made me sad. However everybody should do what they feel best with and makes them happier. Nevertheless I hope so much that you will go on blogging as I wouldn't like to see you go. Wishing you a lovely weekend.

    hugs

    Nina

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  14. Meredith... you know only too well how I feel about your blog. It is one of few that truly speaks not only to my mind but more importantly to my heart. I have been absent from my own blog for reasons that you are aware of. Things have been difficult for us as we re-look at the way we do TTWD under my current circumstances.
    I have missed reading and interacting with other bloggers, but space is what has been needed and directed by Sir at this time. I was not happy initially, now I see why it became necessary. You have so much to offer to many of us whether this is a new or established way of life. I am guilty of just "lurking" as I always check to see what you have been up to.Know while I did not respond as I typically do, there were many instances where your posts were "right on" for where I was at that moment. I would very much miss hearing from you if you stop but as always it is understood this can happen. You know how to reach me. Wishing you and Jack continued happiness.

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  15. Hi Meredith, I used to be a lurker until I plucked up the courage to come out and become a blogger. I love reading your blog and have learnt so much from you and other bloggers. I can understand how you feel though. Keep up the writing as you are influencing others to try TTWD even if they don't comment.
    Lindy x

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  16. Meredith,
    As Meatloaf once said, you took the words right out of my mouth.
    Many Prayers & Much Love
    Alice K.

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  17. Hi Meridith. Once upon a time I was a "learner" too. Your blog was one of the ones I read in its entirety when I found the blog world. I also emailed with you a few times as we got to know each other. We practice DD and although you and Jack don't I have still learned a lot of valuable information from you and look forward to your posts. I usually don't comment unless I feel like I have something to add. I wish there was a 'like' button. That would enable people to push a quick like button to let us know they were there. On my blog I have just a few loyal commenters although usually 200 or more views I understand wanting more.

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  18. Hey Mere...I do enjoy visiting and just lurk or comment...depending on the content and if I have anything useful and/or pertinent to share. I know I have quite a few lurkers on my blog and I do get more comments when I post something personal sometimes. Have a few posts in draft that I'm working on...one of these days, I'll post them and see what kind of comments I get. LOL

    Hugs and blessings...Cat

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  19. I freely admit to lurking and rarely commenting. I just feel I have nothing to add to your words or to the other commenters. But I read often. :)

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  20. I'm a lurker also. I find that most of the time, someone already said my thoughts. I have emailed and received a very prompt and helpful reply. I thank you for the blog and hope to learn more with each post.

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