On this last Saturday of the year, I opened up a big can of worms. Why I did this, I have no idea. So I am asking your help and am taking a little survey to help see things more clearly.
Jack and I were on a short drive to our favorite bakery to buy some delicious bread for our turkey sandwiches. Today is the first day in almost a week that we have no friends or family coming over. We have the whole day to ourselves. The sun was peeking through the clouds and we could see the water and the sailboats. I said I have been doing some thinking about our relationship based on what others had written on their blogs. Hoh/wife ratio comparisons.............. lots of bloggers have stated percents in declaring who holds the reins, who has the power in decision making. You get the idea.
So Jack asks me the question. What is the percent ratio of our relationship. I do not hesitate saying ours is 51-49%. Eyebrows shot up and a firm hand was on my knee immediately. Jack said that he thought not. He was not a wishy-washy Hoh. He has the authority and the ability to back things up. Yikes! I was a little uncomfortable. I asked the percentage he thought represented our relationship. Without hesitation, he said that ours was 60-40%. My eyes must have bugged out a bit. The hand tightened on my knee and he asked if I needed an RA spanking once we were home to illustrate just where we stood. I smiled and said that we could discuss this at home. He said the discussion, if necessary, would be otk.
So all this made me do some serious thinking. Why hadn't we spoken of this before? We had each thought our percentage ratio was what was in place. Then I found his perception was not mine and his perception of us was the one we use. No wonder I find myself in hot water. I have the percentages wrong. There seems no room for changing those numbers either. I am still just a little bit surprised to actually put the numbers on all this.
So I am asking your input here, readers. In the comment section, share your relationship percentage ratios of both you and your Hoh. This should be revealing to say the least. I just can't believe I never asked Jack this piece of important information. Now that I have it straight from my Hoh, I need to do some thinking and get back to you. So let's do some sharing.
So what percentage is your relationship? Ours is 60% - 40%. I need a little more time to soak in these numbers and come to terms with how they add up.