Sunday, November 23, 2014

Meredith Stumbles Big Time and Jack Solves The Mystery




It has been a long time since things were dicey here. We haven't been here in quite awhile: upset Jack with a paddle in his hand and his wife bared bottomed and about to be spanked. How did things get this far? Like a snowball racing downhill getting bigger and moving faster, our getting along was heading for trouble.

 Everything is fine now, but, boy howdy, things were not at all fine two days this week. I felt neglected, ignored and grouchy. Jack went on his way not noticing my mood as it became brittle and darker.  Things were festering. He was out for the evening. When he came home, I was almost asleep and faked a deep sleep. The next morning we went on an urban hike.  We each listened to our own music and really never even held hands even though he tried. We both really knew somethings was wrong and I knew things were coming to a head or rather my bottom real soon. When we got home, I made some sandwiches and we ate in silence. Things were getting tense and this is so very unusual for us. He asked if I wanted to talk. I shrugged and told him I would go take a shower and then we could talk. I turned my back and walked away from him. Upstairs in the bathroom, I closed the door and, for the first time ever, considered locking the door. I took off my clothes and the bathroom door opened. Jack took me by the wrist as I protested. Over the side of the bed I went. He spanked hard and fast using his hand. I came up very angry. I walked away from him as he tried to hug me. I told him I was too upset and I turned my back on him and went into the bathroom,. He came right after me and this time got the paddle out of the dresser. Over the bed, I went and he paddled hard and fast. I was reduced to tears and when he brought me up, I was done being upset. He kept the paddle on my bottom and gave me three more spanks. He told me he had tried many times to talk, cuddle, hold hands and each time, I had pushed him away and acted more distant.

We talked. I told him that I felt like he wasn't there for me and I felt he was stepping away. He said I was to stay on the bed and think about what had happened. He would return to talk some more. I was so shocked by what had just happened that thinking about it did not calm me down. When he came back into the bedroom, he said that things had just snowballed getting bigger and more out of control over the two days we were at odds. He said that he was still upset with my inappropriate behavior. He spanked me with his hand again. Then he sent me to the shower. Things were okay now. I have really no idea why this happened. Things had been so smooth...... what had happened? Why had this happened?

Later we met friends for dinner.  I told Jack I was so sore and he smiled, and placed his hand in mine. He said he could not remember the last discipline spanking he had given, but those could and would happen. On the way to dinner, his hand on my leg, he said he had solved the mystery. I asked what mystery. He told me that he know why I felt neglected and ignored. He asked if I knew what was different at home. I told him no.

He continued saying that I  got spanked today for my attitude and disrespect. And here is why it happened.  On Sunday I had moved my walking clothes from our big closet to our dresser in our bedroom. Having everything together made more room for things in the closet. So I dressed for walking in the bedroom. I did not dress with Jack in the infamous closet where he loves to grab me and spank all the time, everyday. I was dressing far from him and would see him when I am fully clothed. No access to my bare bottom while dressing! He told me to begin changing and dressing back in the closet and see what happens.

Are you kidding me? And just like that, we were back. Now I dress with Jack in the closet. I am playfully spanked daily. All good girl and fun! My walking clothes are still in the big bedroom dresser, but I take those clothes to the big closet. Making myself available to my man is oh, so necessary.  Hard lesson learned!



18 comments:

  1. Oh Mere,,,that was a surprise to hear,,the simple things we do every day are the best, hugs and love,,,: - )

    L,

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  2. One way to keep you on your toes then like his access to you whilst dressing serve as mini maintenance sessions if necessary.

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  3. Smart hubby! This is the same reasoning why we have maintenance every week.
    hugs abby

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  4. Jack does make me smile - we dress at other ends of the house at the moment - too much house to waste! Soon be back to dressing squeezed up together, I expect.

    I love to hear about other people's habits. This is so nice - not the spanking, and you know I understand completely about that - but the camaraderie between you both. Almost like an elaborate dance routine - Tango perhaps?

    Hugs
    Ami

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  5. You have a wise man there Mere...happy you two are back on track. ;)

    Hugs and Blessings...
    Cat

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  6. I can totally relate to how you didn't respond to his efforts to talk or hold your hand. Recently I was in a very needy mood for a few days and could hardly sit in the tv room with my husband without thinking I wanted to have sex or some closeness at least. Later he said goodnight and I got so angry we ended up squabbling. I felt neglected and expected him to read my mind all day and then wouldn't talk about it either. He felt that our moods were not always going to be the same and I should have communicated. It wasn't until the next morning we reset, had some strong loving, then it was all over. We ladies internalize more than men I think. So glad you are " back in the closet".

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  7. Mere,
    I know that this was a difficult week for you and that it was even more difficult to write about. But I'm so proud of you!
    We all learn from each other's experiences - and it's always helpful to know we aren't alone in our stumbles.
    I'm so glad that Jack figured it out and that you are back to the way things are supposed to be. :)
    hugs,
    Cali

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  8. I am so sorry you you had a rough week, I think we do require extra attention or we get used to it, it's hard when you feel like they're not there for you. I'm glad all is well now and the problem has be been addressed :)

    Hugs

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  9. It's so wonderful to finally get to the "bottom" of a mystery, especially one that is negatively impacting such an important relationship - and then all is well again. DD is such a journey - you've done well to remind us of that. Meredith, thanks so much for beautifully sharing yours and Jack's with us.
    SSB

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  10. It sucks when you have a tough time. I'm glad he figured it out and it's all fixed now :)

    Callie

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  11. - Jack took care of this. He spanked and spanked. He didn't let you walk away angry.
    - Jack figured out what started all of this.
    - just those few playful (GG) swats everyday really set the tone for the day. You can miss 1 or 2 and be fine. but miss more than that and you'll have more of these posts.

    Glad things are back to normal. Thank you for sharing this. I'm sure it wasn't easy.

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  12. Meredith... glad Jack was able to get things back on track. It's funny how we distance ourselves when we are upset fully knowing men don't even see most things the same way. We just assume they know something is wrong and should fix it. We have to remember they are not mind readers. When they take the time to reconnect... to push them away will only certainly lead to more problems. In myhouse when push away all attempts for hubby to connect... well he exercises his right to connect with my bottom, choice is mine. Anyway.... move ahead, lean in closer and enjoy your morning time in the closet.....




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  13. Hi Meredith, I'm sorry you went through such a rough week and so glad Jack was able to get things back on track and that he figured it out. Smart man!

    I love your 'ritual' of dressing together and the playful spanking. Both a great way to connect and also reaffirm your roles on a daily basis. It makes sense that without it, you started to lose that closeness.

    Hugs
    Roz

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  14. Even after being at this for some time, the snowball affect can happen. Having that daily play and fun is such a needed part of how we live. I'm glad Jack solved the mystery and you're feeling back to yourself.

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  15. Oh Meredith, how sweet of him to want you dressing with him, Best you stay in that closet!
    love Jan,xx

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  16. I love how Jack knows what you need and does it!

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