My Jack is a mighty strong guy. Long ago as a young groom, he carried me over the threshold of our first apartment. He carries many responsibilities as my Hoh. He uses his hands to fix things which does include this wife!
Jack's hand on my knee can signal several things: reassurance that he understands, a warning to listen carefully to his words, or a loving touch to say all is well and safe.
Holding my hand tells me that I am his and he is mine. Jack always takes my hand when we are walking anywhere or anyplace. That is the way it has been since we were 17.
Jack was the first to hold our babies, his hands gentle and trusting from the very beginning. He held those babies in a confident, loving way. Strong and big, hands picked up small ones and as kids grew, those hands did the job of fathers: carrying heavy things, fixing things and taking care of what was broken...... always helping and always loving and ready.
Like other married couples, we spend time talking about many things. Sometimes we talk when I am over his knee and sometimes we talk embraced with his hand on my bottom, but most times we talk facing one another so we can see each other's eyes. Our hands are in view and ready for the touch of endearment or comfort.
Again, like all married couples, we have had rough times. We have prayed and felt stronger as our hands joined together in unity and hope.
We have spent lots of times in restaurants and Jack will reach over the table or under the table to take my hand in a gesture of reassurance to let me know that decisions have been made and I am to now lean in.
The hand on my knee in the car is a loving gesture and a stern one to make sure I understand what he expects. The hand on my knee is so much a part of our life and our ttwd/dd life.
His hands are the one who love me. Meeting in high school years ago to this very day, those hands have loved me well in so many good ways. We share our love in the many ways all married couples do............. under the covers or on a secluded beach, those hands know what they are doing.
Those same loving hands know how to settle me down when things are not going smoothly. He spanks to get his point across and keeps spanking until he has his way. I answer to him in lots of ways, but this is the way that makes sure he is heard.
Thanks, L and Jack