How do we wives blend submission and independence? That is a tough question for many of us. I love this woman standing on the shore with her ship anchored in the distance. She is mighty and strong in her world. She takes no guff and she has a gun and a sword! Do you see what I see? Does she have a bra malfunction?
In my life, I like to think I am mistress of my own ship......... sometimes. In the big world, I feel independent and prepared to tackle many things. Once the car pulls into the garage, I put my independence away and become Jack's submissive wife. It's when I get the two personalities mixed up, that we have trouble. When we are out together, there is sometimes problems. He would like me to be quieter and calmer when out with friends. How to balance independence and submission? Sometime I have absolutely no idea.
I think of Jack's dominance and I melt. His dominance turns me on. He likes my submission and appreciates the way I defer to him. To my way of thinking, when independence gets in the way of submission, fireworks explode and spankings happen. In the big world, women handle big things and carry huge workplace responsibilities. It is hard to put away the independence and be the submissive wife. Right?
What are your thoughts on balancing independence and submission? Are you successful or do you stumble? When you stumble, is your Hoh there to help remind you of the way things are at home? If you are wheeling and dealing in the workplace, how do you tone it down once you are home? I think this is a problem for many of us. In the workplace, I was in charge of many. Jack was in charge of many. Before we began ttwd/dd, we did not give any thought to our perspective roles. A friend gave me my motto when I left the workplace: mistress of my own ship. I loved it and thought I was very independent.
When we began ttwd/dd, the motto didn't seem to work anymore. Mistress of my own ship implies that I am in charge. Jack says he gives me room, cuts me some slack to be a mistress of that ship sometimes, but if the truth be told, I really want off that ship and into his arms. I want to be on his ship, under his wing.
So let me know how you balance independence and submission. I really want to know.