I love this drawing. That's me in the middle and that's all of you surrounding me. We all read one another's blogs and comment frequently. We readily give advice and we glean words of wisdom from our reading. Long time bloggers help the new ones get started. New bloggers begin fresh and eager. When one blogger is having difficulty, we circle the wagons offering help and serving up links that might help. Bloggers go "behind the blog" to privately seek and offer advice. We readily give our email addresses so private conversations may occur. One blogger you all know helped me get started. She was kind, knowledgeable and funny. Now she is a good friend. Another blogger is just venturing out and we email one another .................... a young blogger and a long time married blogger becoming friends! Yesterday we talked about how it seems like we are falling in love with our husbands all over again! Isn't that the way it is suppose to be?
Sweet Jan at English Rose titled her post "A Spanking Can't Fix Everything". Comments were made fast and furious. Now I really want to add my two cents worth. Jan and I are at the older end of the age scale. We both have been married forever to the same wonderful men. Marriage is a funny thing. What makes one marriage work and another fail? At our age. marriages often crumble or husbands and wives lead separate lives. Her point is well made ............ a spanking cannot fix everything. A marriage must have good bones of trust and respect first. Spanking will not ever save a marriage or make one whole again.
To write this post, I had some help from my "sister" blogger. She reminded me that it seems that the older bloggers help the younger ones. We all certainly can't call our mothers or sisters. When we need advice or a sympathetic ear, we bloggers rely on one another.
The older bloggers enjoy the nest emptying and the sweetness of privacy. The young bloggers enjoy the joy of little ones and have the heartfelt responsibility of putting off a spanking until the house is quiet with sleeping babes.
If you read the comments made to Jan, you will smile. She tells each blogger that she is offering support, a sense of humor, her wisdom. She offers a cup of tea and her listening ear. That is what the older bloggers offer everyday. I spent time emailing bloggers and commenters alike as they search how to navigate ttwd/dd.
When Jack and I have hit bumps in the ttwd/dd road, the young bloggers are right there to tell me that bumps are to be expected, even welcomed. These bloggers soothe me. When they have a rough time, they seek the older bloggers who are in long time marriages. It works........ sister to sister, sister to mama and mama to sister. It happens everyday many times over here in blogland. A blogger just the other day told me she really likes the "behind the blog" conversations as we are given more privacy to share and discuss what really matters.
Just look at how differently we all practice ttwd/dd. As different as we are as people and as different as we are in our relationships, so there are many differences in how ttwd/dd looks and works in each of these marriages.
Husbands are so different--- some spank for discipline, others spank for love and fun. While one husband needs time learning, another husband grasps it all rather quickly. Even Jack and I have changed and evolved. We are practicing a much gentler kind of ttwd/dd than when we first began.
And what one is learning and another has mastered is how spankings do something for many of us wives, both sexually and emotionally. How it expresses their masculinity which in turn increases our feelings of femininity.
Jan's post continues to make me smile because it brought us all to the table to talk. I wish I had one of Jan's cups of tea. She talks the truth about the young and old needing one another everyday. Right?
A special thank you to Jan and Cali Mom. I love you both!