Wednesday, October 30, 2013
The day got off to a rocky start. Jack was unhappy with me. He told me he wanted to talk about the way things were going. I said that I wasn't ready to talk. He told me that he would give me time, but there were things we needed to talk about. I shrugged and knew instantly just where I was standing...... very close the edge!
We went about our day separately. I thought about the rocky start and things that both were said and not said. He called me twice while I was out doing errands. I ignored both calls and then listened to his voice mail. The second voice mail sounded more irritated than the first. When I returned home, he wasn't there. You could actually feel the stew brewing here and the fire being stoked! He called again. I answered and talked in short clipped sentences. Not good! I am not sure why I was distancing myself from the way we do things. I just did not want to talk and I did want to stay mad ......... for a while! I knew we would talk, but I was not ready to do so.
We were headed out to our friends' home for dinner. I was all dressed up waiting for Jack. Jack came into the kitchen and in once swoop, he gathered me in his arms and tilted my chin so our eyes met. He said, "Either your attitude changes immediately, or we are going upstairs for the biggest belt spanking you have ever had". I simply melted into his arms and the brewing stew mess was over. I was a submissive wife and we were off to the dinner party.
In a dd/ttwd home like ours, distancing is always addressed..... always. The next morning Jack brought me coffee and told me after the cup was empty, I would be paddled. Role affirmation is the consequence for distancing. I knew better than to argue. That would only make matters worse. The spanking was done in our guest room. The bed is lower and Jack likes me close. I always have a hard time with that paddle and holding still was impossible making the spanking last a long time. Jack said after it was over that talking is not something to put off. Did I understand? With the paddle firmly against my backside, agreement came quickly. No more distancing for Meredith!
Monday, October 28, 2013
I consider my blog a new one and the few comments made are from other sweet bloggers. When you have a blog, a whole range of stats are presented: the number of page views per day, the location world wide of the viewers, and much more. However the number of comments are few even though the number of readers continue to multiply.
My post about the belt meeting my bottom was made five days ago. The number of viewers for that post has soared to nearly 3,000. Only a handful of comments have been made. I am fine with that.
I am reaching out to the readers who read my blog. Dd/ttwd must be of interest to you. I understand that commenting puts yourself out there. That is why I give my email address to you.
Considering the number of page views, some of you must have questions. Why not email me and let's talk. Our marriage was great and now that we have incorporated ttwd/dd, we are the happiest we have ever been. Take a minute and let's get to know one another. My email is right there.
Thursday, October 24, 2013
Jack did the introduction and he said it was long over due. Blog friends said the meeting would be to my liking and it wouldn't be that bad. Blog friends told me that I would like the belt better than Jack's trusty paddle. The suspense and anxiety over this introduction was almost too much to bare.
Jet lag was over and my attitude was not good. He said it was time to reshape the attitude and get us back on track. I had a small request and it was denied rather quickly. My bottom would be bare. That's the way we spank. I pleaded that my backside was too tender after two weeks away. Jack just smiled and said he knew the way to do the tenderizing. He gave me a kiss and pointed upstairs.
And so we climbed the stairs to the bedroom and I went over his knee. I became very quiet as clothing came down and I was made ready. He spanked first with his hand. He has become an hard spanker. He holds me tight and I begin to sense what is to come. The belt met my bare bottom and the stinging began. Jack spanked until my sit spot was bright red. When the spanking was over, Jack held me close telling me that he hoped my attitude had improved. Just in case, the belt would remain on the bed. In case there was a need to use it again that day, Jack wanted it handy.
So I survived my first belt spanking. It is over, but the belt is still on the bed. Jack said it is handy for round two. Attitude is everything here. Better attitude keeps the belt at bay. I asked Jack if we were all meeting together upstairs again and he replied a second meeting could be easily arranged. Ugh!
Tuesday, October 22, 2013
I know it is a privileged situation here. We have been suffering from enormous jet lag after our 22 hours of flying......... three airplanes, three continents and no reset, no reconnection, no spanking, no belt! Jack was using a new implement and I was sweating bullets worrying about it. Jack had put the belt on a hook in our closet and I looked at it as I had put away folded laundry. Sweet people commented on my post telling me to relax, trust Jack and get through it.
Home two days and no reset, no reconnection, no reaffirmation! We were exhausted and sleep came in waves over and over again. I became very sullen and withdrawn wondering why we were not taking care of ttwd. Where was the dd? Where was the ttwd? Where were Jack and Meredith? We entered into a silent mode just like the way we used to be before we began ttwd/dd. I did not like it one bit and it showed in my silence and withdrawing. I was on the verge of starting a huge argument with Jack.
Instead I took a step back and thought about our situation. We were both weary from the traveling. Jack was still the boss. Jack was still the one in charge of us. I needed to be patient for the reset to happen. I needed to give Jack my support and love. He needed sleep not a demanding wife who needs a reset.
We slept and slept some more. This morning I woke to the aroma of coffee and there was Jack with two big cups of frothy liquid coming in the bedroom door. Jack and Meredith were back. When I came out of the shower, Jack was standing near the bed with the paddle in his hand. He told me it was reset time and this was spanking #1.
Trust me, this spanking was a long, stinging one, but it was wonderful to be back over Jack's knee. Once it was over, he was quick to tell me that spanking #2 would be with the belt this afternoon. I was to stop fretting and start accepting. It would happen. I needed it and so did he.
Welcome home, Jack and Meredith.
Sunday, October 20, 2013
Jack and I have returned from the journey of a lifetime, but it feels so good to be home. Our journey took us far from home. We saw famous sights and did things we have always dreamed about. The food, the animals and people made the journey memorable. Thin hotel walls and lots of people around made any ttwd/dd spanking impossible. By the end of the two weeks away, we were in real need of reaffirmation of roles. Jack was losing patience with me and I was way over the edge. However 22 hours on an airplane left little reconnection time once we were home. Too little sleep and exhaustion took over.
Sleep was everything! Jet lag was raging full force and we both woke up at 3AM and had a serious talk under the covers. Our wee hour talk was about using the belt for the first time. I have pushed that implement away since we began ttwd/dd. I have said no. I am not ready and I do not want it. We have had this conversation over and over again. Jack has waited and listened. He has given me time to get used to the idea, but it has not been used on my backside. With his hand on my bottom, we talked. I said that I was too anxious to take that kind of spanking. He insisted that I needed it and reinforced his strong opinion with a hand spanking right there in bed in the middle of the night. Now completely wide awake, he told me that it would be happening later that day. He said I needed it without a doubt. With so many things to do once we started our day, that belt spanking has not yet happened. We need the reset after two full weeks away. He is doing errands and I am doing laundry and worrying. He has the belt hanging in the closet away from all the other belts. I stare at it as I put folded clothes away. I am worried and he is very confident that this kind of spanking is what I need. I have read my blogland friends talk about taking spankings with the belt. I am worried. Time is not on my side. When he gets home, the music stops and the spanking happens. I need advice and strength from you and I need it rather quickly.
Thursday, October 3, 2013
Meredith and I thought it might be fun for me to write a blog entry...... just a few words from a husband's point of view, a different perspective.
Meredith has often said, "Wow, wish we had brought ttwd back into our marriage years ago!" While I would agree, I can honestly say that timing is everything. Spanking wasn't necessarily something we were looking for, but we're glad Meredith stumbled upon it. I do not believe in luck or divine intervention, but I do believe that if one keeps an open mind, is adventurous, and as a couple support one another, then new opportunities and life-changing experiences are possible and good for a relationship. Ttwd has had a positive impact for us physically, emotionally and psychologically, and certainly socially for Meredith has found new friends and people with similar needs and experiences to talk with, share ideas and learn new things. I probably wouldn't have sought or embraced ttwd on my own, but I too feel the rewards of this lifestyle for us. I especially like the physical results, the changes in Meredith...... her mellowness, calming, yet sexual awakening and how spanking has brought us closer, redefined our roles and responsibilities, and has opened up boundless possibilities for future creative ttwd adventures. We're actually "reborn spankos".... in that we dabbled in spanking many years ago (even before we were married) and then just came back to it in the past year.
About ttwd, let me say this ........ first and foremost. the spanking lifestyle must be consensual and beneficial to both participants. It is absolutely essential that good and clear communication be maintained specific to this lifestyle. We have had some of our best talks while driving or walking together......somehow it is easier when both people are facing forward to have serious discussions. Now though, we are very open and talk easily about our feelings, needs, desires, likes and dislikes related to spankings.
I decide what kind of spanking to give, where and how hard and long: morning or bedtime "wakie-wakie" or nightie-nightie just with my hand; often in the walk-in closet, bathroom or bedside; a "good-girl" or "maintenance" spanking over my knee or side of the bed or couch, generally with a hand warm-up followed by the paddle or wooden spoon; or on a few occasions, there is a need for "reaffirmation" or "reminder" spanking to calm Meredith down or remind her of the "Chain of Command" roles and responsibilities in our household. The latter are done with less warm-up and are a bit longer or harder with the paddle! I don't spank out of anger or punishment. Almost all spankings are done in the nude for both of us.... I like the feel of her body while I hold on to her and pull her into me afterwards. I always finish by pulling her into my body tightly, my hand or paddle firmly pressed into her now warm and pink bottom, and we talk: "Are you settled?" "Do you understand?"
So enough of this philosophizing! What you really want to know about, and why you are still reading this, is ..... "What is it like to spank Meredith? What happens beforehand, during and after?" I guess the best way to tell this is through an example of a recent spanking session.
Today was an interesting, but somewhat typical kind of day. Meredith was a bit on edge, meaning she was sassy, fretting about things, perhaps it was because we are headed away again and she gets anxious, even bossy about time and who needs to pack what. So I knew she needed settling down. She walked into the bedroom wearing her bathrobe and I met her and had the paddle lying on the bed. She came to an immediate halt! I reached out and took her wrists and pulled her to me. In a fluid motion, I dropped her robe, pulled her across my knee and over the side of the bed, wrapping her close to me pinning her arms. Meredith is a "wiggler" or "squirmer"when she is spanked! I proceed to "warm her up"with my hand, telling her that she needed to relax and take the day's tasks and events in stride...... fretting about them won't make it any easier. A good "warm-up" is important and after a dozen or so smacks, Meredith is ready for the paddle. I like the paddle in that it can ready both cheeks at once or nicely spank on each side one at a time. I like to be consistent, striking with the same intensity and rhythm, producing a nice pinkness. Meredith whimpers, squirms about a bit, takes it well as she knows she needs to be less hyped and this spanking will bring her back to calm. Afterwards I stand her up, pull her close and hold her tightly, the paddle still firmly, but still on her hot bottom. We talk. I have her attention. I tell her she needs to mellow and enjoy the process of packing and getting ready without freaking out about the little details. She now knows, and she knows that the spanking helped her become calm and "settled". We hug and enjoy the closeness. I throw the paddle on the bed and gently caress Meredith's stinging bare bottom.... she knows to be calm, to take things in stride, to lean on me for direction. Her mood is changed and the sass is gone. All is happy again!
Ok, so that is just an example of how a spanking session goes in our household. We spank often. Sometimes when we travel, particularly with others, spanking is difficult to work in. But then this is where a bit of creativity and imagination comes into play, and that makes ttwd all the more fun!
I hope this blog entry was of interest for you, perhaps even informative, and perhaps I'll write another blog post someday.