Friday, September 27, 2013

Ttwd On A Country Road In Europe




Jack and I are enjoying the last few days of a European holiday. I have missed blogging and have decided to share my small ttwd/dd victory with all of you.

We stayed away from the big cities this time to enjoy the small little towns in between those big cities. Small hotels were our choice. We were headed into one small town, but had a really long way to go. Traveling here is very different from doing so at home. There are no hotels circling the larger cities. So we were arriving late at night, with no reservations. We were even a little lost and it was now dark. We were hungry and I was very frustrated. Late, hungry, no reservations and one tired couple in a place they did not know. Sound like an argument of blame coming on?

Before beginning ttwd/dd, the "old" Meredith would have raised her voice and blamed Jack for this big mess. The argument would have accelerated into the possible spoiling of our vacation. Things were tense in the car. I watched the clock tick off the minutes and listened to my stomach growl. We were in a strange land and knew we had a bit of a bad situation here.

I thought about how this might play out. Jack was driving in a strange place and needed me to help navigate. I needed to remain calm. I thought about Jack being the boss. He is leading and needs me to follow.i need to trust and support him, not blame and argue. He was taking care of things.

We found a hotel and the hotel people recommended a romantic restaurant nearby. I had remained calm and helpful. I was supportive and polite. While at dinner, Jack spoke about my behavior on the long car ride. He noticed! He saw that I put my frustration aside and did not attack verbally his decision. He kept us safe and we arrived in harmony and did not have an argument or long angry silences.

When in bed next to a sleeping Jack, I thought about what I had done on that car ride. I leaned into Jack and he acknowledged my doing so. He was pleased with me and told me so.

How perfect is that? I know that acting in a agreeable way will not always happen, but it happened this time. I felt different because my actions were calm and supportive. Sweet!



14 comments:

  1. This is so sweet. Good for you for being so supportive...and good for him for letting you know how much that meant to him. I'm sure this set such a great tone for your trip too:)

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    1. I was so amazed at what I did. It has been a long time coming.
      Meredith

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  2. Yes, it was a good feeling to be submissive....... with no spanking and no paddle in sight. Thank you, Tess

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  3. Good for you. Don't you feel proud of yourself.

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  4. This is so great and it all turned out good in the end. I love it when ttwd/dd works out smoothly. Enjoy the last of your trip!
    Kim

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    1. The trip was wonderful, but homecoming was a little rough.
      Thanks for your comment.
      M

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  5. This is so awesome Mere! I'm so happy for you as I know that this kind of situation is what pushes me over the edge too.

    What a sweet victory for you and what a sweet gift for Jack! Enjoy the rest of your trip and safe travels home.

    It'll be good to have you back here again :)

    hugs,
    Cali

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    1. Cali,
      As always, your comments feel so good. It is good to be home again.
      M

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  6. Oh I love this! So glad it worked out for you and that he noticed. That always feels so good. Enjoy the rest of the holiday.

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  7. Meredith, from my own experience as a tourist, having visited 150 international countries, on 5 continents, in 30 years. I wish you 'spanking good times' in all of them.

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  8. Wow, good for you! It's kinda nice to see this at work isn't it?

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  9. Way to go, Meredith! :) You're right, calmness will not always win, but you will find it winning more often as you grow. :) It's just one of the things you find changing when you get into DD/TTWD. :) And I love that he too noticed the challenge it was to you, and that you chose to rise above it. :)

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