Tuesday, September 3, 2013

Not So Gentle Jack And "Finishing Up"

This post is about the changes in our marriage. Things continue to change and Jack wants these changes recorded. So here is what happened on Friday.

















A little background information would be helpful here. I am a meticulous housekeeper. It is one of the ways I best handle stress. Although Jack says he has a better way to handle stress, quick and reliable to my bottom.  Every drawer is neat; every flat surface is devoid of clutter and personal things; sparse and serene are my interior design trademarks. I find it soothing and peaceful. My home is that way right now!When I was a working girl, my colleagues called me a flow engineer. I was always organized and ready. Early to my work desk and early to every meeting, I was ready. Jack has always said that I would be early and giving instructions at my own memorial service. I pack early for vacations. I return library books before due dates. I keep a list of all grocery needs. I send birthday cards on time. Drawers in my kitchen are neat as a pin. The infamous walk in closet, scene of many spankings, is neat with nothing out of order. My purse is litter-free. My car has no food wrappers or clothes thrown into the backseat. I keep notebooks just because I like to. My phone is always charged. Our bed is always made  with fresh duvets. Laundry is folded and put away once the dryer's melodic chime rings. Towels are changed frequently in both the bathrooms and the spa. The guest room is pristine awaiting the next guest. The silver is polished and the crystal gleaming. File drawers are in order and color coded. Christmas shopping and greeting cards are ready before Thanksgiving. Sometimes it was a bit much. Friends gave me a bad time. Nothing out of order, no clutter of any kind!

I am a little like Martha. I crave organization and the presence of order everywhere. I detest clutter.


 Friday it was a different scene.

Jack was headed to the golf course after breakfast. He told me when he would be back. I had four hours to tidy up and enjoy my blog reading and posting. I walked through the kitchen with the breakfast dishes spread out on all counter tops. I sorted dirty laundry in piles outside the laundry room and never started the washing machine. I stripped the bed of duvet covers and left all the down quilts, feather bed and pillows spread out over the bedroom floor. I glanced at my desk and the bill work that I needed to attend to and I glanced at the grocery list that suggested a run to the store. I glanced at the birthday cards waiting to be addressed. The guest room was a mess because I have a little trip coming up and that is where I spread things out as I am packing. The cleaning supplies were on the bathroom counter and the things to be ironed were stacked on the ironing board in the laundry room. A full day of home keeping as Martha would say was waiting for me.

I walked by all of it and sat down with my iced tea and my laptop to enjoy my blogs, email my friends and begin possible posts. For four hours, I left the real world behind. I emailed friends, worked on two posts and was really enjoying myself. I have no idea where the meticulous housekeeper went. She just wasn't here. The garage door opened and I jumped with a start. Nothing had been done.......... absolutely nothing.

Jack walked in and just stared at what he found. Later he would tell me our home looked like a robbery scene. He said hello, kissed my cheek and went through the clutter mine field upstairs to shower. He really said very little. I did not hear the shower from where I sat down stairs with my laptop. He came down the stairs quietly still dressed in his golf clothes. He told me that he was dumbfounded by what he saw and could think of only one thing to get my attention. He pulled me from the couch and  we went upstairs. He pulled off my sundress and panties. He took the paddle from the dresser. He put me over his knee locking my legs under his. He spanked me using his hand and told me that I had never been spanked for not doing something, but this was a first. He kept using his hand and I was taking it pretty well although it stung. Then came the paddle and I had a very hard time holding still. When the paddling was over, he held me briefly and I could tell he was still very irritated with me. He told me he would shower and I was to get busy. I was not to touch my laptop or ipad. He asked if I understood as he waved the paddle.

Then Jack cooked a delicious dinner and I did the sous chef things like making salad and setting the table. His hand would intentional brush my bottom. He said twice that we would finish up later.
The house was in order and serenity was restored to our home, but not between Jack and me. I stayed quiet and out of his reach. My bottom hurt like never before. I kept thinking how I had changed since beginning ttwd/Dd and really thought about what I hadn't done that usually would have been second nature to me. Consistent Jack was steady and ready......... with that paddle. Second nature to him.

It was late and I was reading in bed. Jack had left the paddle on the dresser. I did not put that thing back. I will not touch it. Jack walked in the bedroom ready for bed. He picked up the paddle and came to my side of the bed. He asked what I had learned today and I told him I had learned to prioritize better. He said that was good and that we would now "finish-up." He helped me out of bed, put me over the bed, bared my bottom and paddled me five times. He put me in bed, turned out the light and climbed in on his side. He told me when we began ttwd, he did not think he would ever spank for the kind of thing he spanked for today. He said that usually housework is done as a team, but I did have plenty of time to get these things done. He put his hand on my bottom and gently turned me over so we could "spoon" to sleep. I still didn't say much. I was astounded by the day's events and really needed the day to end. Before ttwd/Dd. all this mess would have caused an long argument,  cold silence, huffiness and attitude. Not today. A spanking caught my attention and Jack finished up. Order had been restored to both our home and us.

20 comments:

  1. Oh No :( I'm sorry you had a momentary lapse of sanity ;) Sometimes its hard not to get lost in all the blog reading. Especially when some of them are so fun to read ;)

    Callie

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    1. Callie,
      I will get lost on your blog any day.
      Meredith

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  2. Yay you! I mean seriously. You didn't get upset with Jack even in your mind. You didn't rationalize that you are a neat freak and this was a day of exception. You followed his lead and at the end of it all you spoke of how ttwd benefits the two of you.

    willie

    PS. I didn't hear you beat yourself up either! Also fantastic *wink*

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    1. Willie,
      I am learning........ Thank you for the excellent feedback.
      Meredith

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  3. Okay, my house is not THAT clean! LOL
    I'm always surprised when something that's routine for me, is forgotten or not followed because it's so out of character. You could have gotten discouraged, but you didn't, you accepted it and then moved on and had a great dinner. That is so much progress!

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  4. In my opinion, that is the perfect scenario! That is how I think Dd should work, you both handled it beautifully! Congrats and also, thanks for making me feel bad about how dirty my house must look compared to yours!

    Kristy

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    1. Making order out of messes is what I do best at home. Still the mess Jack found earned me exactly what happened.
      Thanks for your comment,
      Meredith

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  5. Mere,

    I just love the way Jack is with you. He's calm, he's loving and he's consistent - every spanko wife's dream.

    I'm so glad that he encourages you to blog about your experiences - then we ALL get to benefit from what you are learning about yourself and your ttwd/dd relationship.

    I think it's kind of funny that nothing got you off track of being super organized & clean until you discovered spanking blogs and spanko friends.

    We love you too!

    hugs,
    Cali

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    1. Cali,
      He did mean business on that day.
      I thank you always for your insightful comments!
      Meredith

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  6. I could use your organization over here. Sigh. Maybe I need jack's paddle.

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  7. Renee,
    Now that is funny. I will be right over.
    Meredith

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  8. Meredith,
    I really like your entire blog. I also have been married since right out of high school, two kids in college now and two in junior high school. I have been searching for something for a long while now and have not sure what, but until I ran across your blog and Chelsea and Clints' I didn't even have a name for it. I am only at the stage of bringing up this discussion with my husband. I'm sooooo glad to know I'm not alone in these feelings. I think my friends would be baffled that an educated, articulate, hopefully well read woman such as myself is feeling the way I do. I plan to sign up and follow you and hopefully resolve this complex directional crossroads that I find myself thinking about constantly. I do have one question; have you ever felt too old/grown up for this? Kate

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    1. Please email me at the address on my blog. We can begin emailing and there is where I will answer your questions.......... not here! More privacy for these kinds of questions. I am real and you want real answers. Right?
      Meredith

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  9. Please email me at the address on my blog. We can begin emailing and there is where I will answer your questions.......... not here! More privacy for these kinds of questions. I am real and you want real answers. Right?
    Meredith

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  10. Oh Meredith, I do find it funny that spanking is what caused the spanking. I am sorry to laugh but I can't help it. I do have sympathy for your poor rear though.
    love Jan.xx

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  11. Oh, I would love to have you come and help me organize! :) I keep decluttering, but still have so much stuff, once it's done I know how to keep it up, but it's getting it more decluttered. :)

    So glad you guys were able to get it all worked out without one of the arguments from the past, and that you're finding your way in this crazy world of DD. :)

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  12. Hi Meredith,

    I've enjoyed your whole blog, along with several others, as we have begun our Dd journey. The variations in practice are astounding! And I'm really learning a lot as I read and ask questions.

    Your post raised a question for me, and I am wondering if you could help me understand. I'm not sure what exactly Jack was trying to help you with by spanking you. Did you have a deadline, and all deadlines are enforced with spanking, so he was enforcing obedience, or awareness, or thoughtfulness?

    You are an amazing housekeeper. Truly amazing. Housekeeping is how you work out stress. You mentioned that instances such as this rare mess/delay in cleaning would have caused much argument or coldness in the past. Why would it have done so, if you so rarely have the house a mess? I think I'm just missing what the core issue really was, and how Jack was helping by spanking you. (It might have been nothing more than a relational exercise, in the end, of submission to tacit expectations, which is a common enough goal in Dd.)

    When you said that cleaning house was how you work out stress, I had to laugh, especially when you said that Jack said he has a faster way to do that, through your bottom. My husband would LOVE it if I worked out stress by cleaning house, and he would in no way short circuit that by getting me there faster through spanking me! Too funny!

    To each his own! (And, indeed, they each have their own way, don't they?!)

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    1. I have been away traveling to far away places. So I am tardy answering. Why not email me at the address given on my blog and let's talk. This is not the place to get to know one another. I prefer more privacy so wecan get to know one another better. I wonder if you will see this since your comment was written almost a month ago. Please email.

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  13. Meredith,
    It's interesting that you have not yet replied to Anonymous above, as I had the same question. I'm a similar Type A household organizer, and if the above had happened in our house, my husband simply would have laughed and asked if I enjoyed myself as much as he did while he played golf. You already had to "pay for" your unexpected and unusual downtime by doing more in less time, so I'm not sure what the spanking was meant to accomplish. If you chose to prioritize your day like that but were still able to accomplish your tasks in a reasonable period of time, what really is the big deal?

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  14. First time reading your blog. I must say your story is full of holes and inconsistencies. You say you are neat as a pin yet your home was a mess?

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