Sunday, September 1, 2013

Linking With A New Persepctive




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I hope you all read Jennelle's blog at A New Prospective. It took us awhile to find one another. She left a comment on my blog which stated how much alike our journeys in Dd were. Then she sent me an email and a friendship was born. Jennelle and I  both have the most consistent of HoHs. These men are right there to guide and lead us.  We were both military wives living through deployments. When separations were in full swing, we each made the decisions for our families. When hubbies returned, we each had a hard time giving up the control and accepting our husbands' leadership. We each were talented in keeping arguments going long after decisions were made. We each have been spanked for the arguing and the inability to relinquish control. We each have shared the spanking episodes we have endured on our blogs and our emails.  Our husbands are gentle, calm, consistent and completely reliable as to how to handle a wife that won't accept decisions made.

When we found one another, each of us had recently been spanked and bemoaned how we each wanted to reach that place where we accepted our husbands ' decisions as we recognized how difficult that was.  When we first emailed one anther, we talked about deployments and the difficult involved in separation. Then we began to offer one another support. Jennelle told me she was learning to soften a discussion and to submit to spankings. Things were looking up and she and her husband were listening to one another. 

Her most recent post is a shining example of what happens when a wife accepts her husband's leadership and guidance. In the post, she acknowledges that there will be spankings, but she has learned to avoid angry confrontations and show respect when discussions replace arguments. As a result, she writes that her husband's speaking is gentle and loving. They are living the Dd life and it is working. 

I cannot imagine not having other Dd women in my life like Jennelle. To do ttwd/Dd, I need the support of other women who catch me when I stumble and cheer when I have done well following my husband's leadership. We are blogging because we care about one another. We want to learn and help one another. 

Read Jennelle's blog and comment on her keen insight. She definitely has a new perspective and I applaud her. I am not where she is just yet, but I will be. She helps me sort things out and is helping me  get it right. Tell her I said hello! 











15 comments:

  1. Thank you Meredith for the introduction to Jennelle. We definitely all need each other and it's wonderful to welcome a new friend!

    I think that military wives, or wives whose husbands travel a lot, really have an uphill battle when hubby comes home.

    I'm so glad that Jennelle has you, and now other new friends here, to lean on.

    hugs,
    Cali

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    1. One of the benefits to blogging is meeting friends who really care and help. That is you, sweet Cali Mom.
      Meredith

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  2. The blogging community is full of such wonderful people that is for sure. Often we do gravitate towards one or two- whether this is because their thing they do is similar to ours, or their core beliefs are. These friendships are to be treasured indeed.

    I know first hand what it is like to have friends like Janelle and trust me when I say, just because you are not 'there' where she is yet, the tables will turn and you will reach a different spot than her and she will be discovering things from you as well. That is the beauty of these friendships.

    willie

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    1. You always give the wisest of advice, Wille
      Thank you and I am listening.
      Meredith

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  4. I don't ever know what to say, other than to tell everyone what they probably already know. Meredith is one of the most supportive and sweetest people I have ever known, and this community is lucky to have her. I appreciate her advice and support all the time!! and I personally think you're farther ahead than you give yourself credit for :)

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    1. Jennelle,
      How wonderful we have found one another! Our journeys are parallel and we are making our way here.
      Meredith

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  5. I've known Jennelle through blogland for a while now and I agree with you, Meredith, that she is a special lady. I'm so glad you two have found each other. Support is crucial and I'm so glad I have found your blog, too! This is a beautiful post, thanks for sharing!
    Kristy

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    1. Kristy,
      I agree that Jennelle is a special lady. I am glad she is my dear friend.
      Meredith

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  6. Thanks for the introduction to Janelle. I'm excited to get to know her better. I love this Blogland community and am so grateful for the friends I have here.
    Hugs

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    1. Sarah,

      I think you will find her warm and generous in her support.
      Hooray for your big run!!!
      Meredith

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  7. Thank you for the introduction to Janelle!

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  8. Having this community for support is wonderful. It has helped so many. Well I've already been following Janelle, but it's great to see others will be visiting too. :) She is one special, of course, I think I can say that about every woman here in our little corner. :)

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