Jack and I had four lovely days away on an island in the sound. We stayed at a cottage on the water belonging to friends. We had the cottage to ourselves the first two days. Sleeping late, loving under the covers, delicious breakfasts, beachcombing and late night star gazing ........ all made our time alone really sweet! We spent one afternoon sitting in chairs like these talking about ttwd and really hearing one another. At one point in our conversation, I cried with emotion at the way we really heard one another and how good all this was for our marriage.
Then we hit some bumps. Four times during this time away, I told my husband what to do and what not to do. This happened when we were alone......... in the car, in a grocery store and in a restaurant. He did not like it and told me so. He said I was close to "the edge". I shrugged. He was not pleased with me saying I was not treating him like the boss of our family. He doesn't like my bossiness. He told me that he is the boss and somehow I am unable to be more submissive. Comments I made to him seemed small, but he was very upset. He told me we would deal with it when we got home. Swell!
We arrived home late and I went right to bed. He tucked me in and I thought all was well. He left early the next morning and told me to sleep as he showered and made coffee. Around 6AM, he woke me up walking into the bedroom carrying a cup of frothy coffee in one hand and the paddle in the other. He put the coffee on the night stand and sat down on the bed holding the paddle in his hand. He was calm and spoke quietly. He would be gone until early evening. I was to cancel my evening plans with friends. No discussion and no negotiations. He wanted me home and waiting for his return. There would be a serious spanking and talk. I needed to spend the day getting ready and in a mindset to submit.
I emailed three people who do ttwd and they offered support and concern. I cannot imagine doing ttwd without the three friendships I have made. Each of them reminded me that Jack loved me and to not fight the spanking would show my submission. I had plenty of time to think. I thought about how the four things I said undermined his authority. He is the boss and I need to be mindful of that. Time dragged and I waited.
When he finally came home, I was already crying. He held me and said that we would be going upstairs. He said I had spun myself up all day just thinking about the spanking and what I had said. He said that there would be a spanking, but an easy one.......... no paddle! He said he needed to do what he had promised. Then he knew I needed to calm down. We went upstairs and I went over his knee. He bared my bottom and spanked me with his hand. He held me when it was over. He asked me who the boss is in our family. I immediately answered that he was. He asked if I needed the paddle and I said no. Let's put this behind us and start over, he whispered.