Tuesday, July 16, 2013

Two Best Friends I've Never Met



Several things I know for sure. The United States is  mighty big. The Internet is a wondrous thing. Friends are like gold, precious and valued, rare and worth keeping. Let me tell you why!

When I started blogging, I first read lots of blogs. I felt very much an outsider until I met someone who bravely gave me her email address. Not only did I write to this blogger, but another woman wrote as well. The three of us were soon linked in a way that we never imagined. The wonders of the Internet made possible a strong bond between the three of us.

Geography-wise, our country is big. I have driven across this great land twice. My new friends live far from me and far from one another. We will not be meeting soon for coffee. The wonderful Internet made possible our meeting one another. We can have that cup of coffee as we chat online.

The one of us who first blogged helped me set up my blog. She advised and coached. I leaned on her repeatedly for her humor, problem solving and experience. She calmed me as I made my first post and cheered when I was successful. What a dear friend!

We each began slowly. We shared our pen names and what state we lived in. C is from the Pacific Coast and V is from the Midwest. I live in the Pacific Northwest. Ever so carefully, we exchanged information about our lives. We are all married and have been for many years. We all have children, but they are grown or almost grown. Two of us are empty nesters and one of us grapples with teenagers and the dilemma of sound proofing! We each told one another about growing up and birth order, inching our way to the main topic all the time. Finally we asked one another about spanking. Yes, each of us loved to be spanked. And the flood gates of friendship opened.

We are best friends, but have never met. One day we will. My life is better because of these women. We are one another's confidant. There are only two people in all the world that I can share my blogging, thoughts and troubles concerning ttwd. We are one another's cheerleader, supporter, hand holder, advice giver and listener.

We talk about implements, places spankings occur, the lack of privacy when having house guests, the benefits of a spanking at bedtime to calm and settle us, the words of encouragement a wife might tell her husband.  We share advice on how to get husbands to really listen and hear what we are saying. When one of us is hurting from misunderstood feelings in dealing with a husband, we rally around the friend. We cheer when a spanking goes well and commiserate when a spanking went a different way.  We are so lucky to have found one another. We email everyday. We understand one another.

Interestingly, our husbands are very much alike. They spank us because they know it is what each of us wants and needs. There are no punishment spankings, but all the other kinds are used! We exchange the spanking tales that occur in each of our homes and console, cheer or advise one another. One of us is  spanked for sass and attitude. Another is spanked for just plain enjoyment and one of us is spanked as her bottom tingles in anticipation. The personalities of the three husbands sound very much alike. These three guys are loving, caring, firm and gentle, but they have never met.

The Internet brought us together and the bravery of one blogger knit us as friends forever. I can really be who I am. I can share what I am feeling, difficulties I have and what is in the future. Who can really say that about their real life friends? I have many real life friends. None of them know I am a ttwd wife. Online, I can be who I really am and these two people are there to listen and support  me.

I love them and one day we will meet. We have exchanged photos and more and more personal information. I like to say that these two women are coming with me for the rest of my life. How fortunate can one new blogger be? Mighty lucky indeed!

If you are new or are feeling like you are just looking in from the outside and want something more, approach a blogger and start a conversation. Many bloggers have become friends with others who read the blogs. The connection will make you feel accepted and safe. We are here. You know where to find us. 

Thank you, C and V,
Meredith

18 comments:

  1. mere, i loved this. it's so true. i'm friends with a few, not many, and i love that we can chat about the personal stuff. i'm happy you have that too. it makes life so much sweeter. :)

    hugs friend,
    m.

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    1. These two women make life sweeter because we share the personal stuff.
      M

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  2. Wonderful post Meredith :) It makes me feel awesome when I can talk to blogging friends. It's funny, my blogging friends are always awake at the times my RL friends are sleeping, I get the best if both worlds ;)

    Callie

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    1. The blog friends ...... these two......... know the real me. So special!
      Thanks,
      M

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  3. Isn't it wonderful! I think we are wise to pick these friendship carefully and to nurture them. You begin to share life together.

    I so hope you get to meet your friends...

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    1. Right.......... we were very tentative when we began. Once we felt safe, we shared and shared and shared!
      M

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  4. Thank you for sharing this wonderful account of beginning to blog and the close knit friendships that are often made. This is definitely a supportive and caring community :)
    # MrBBSpanker

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    1. You are so right! This is a very caring group of people.
      M

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  5. I'm smiling because I love my blogging friends too! I feel richer for having you/them in my life.

    :) Cali

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  6. Hi Meredith, what a special post. Thank you for sharing. I certainly agree that this is quite a remarkable community.

    Blessings
    George

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    1. Special friends deserve special recognition. Right?
      Meredith

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  7. Meredith, this is so true. :) Blogging friends are so wonderful, and we all start out with a blog or an email, that scary, WONDERFUL first step to amazing friends we may never meet.

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    1. You are the one who wrote about meeting in RL one of your readers. Right????
      Meredith

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  8. This is a wonderful post! I waited 39 years to meet my best friend and it was here in blogland that it happened. Being able to talk about simply everything is very rare and special. I hope you three get to meet for coffee some day!
    Kristy

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    1. Blogland is a safe way to reach out to people who enjoy, do what we do. I love it.
      Meredith

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  9. Oh this is so what I need and long for. I have exchanged emails a few times witha couple different people. But I have been nervous to write to much or to often. But oh how I wish for this. I think I need to stop being a lurker and start a blog. But I dont write as well as all of you and our way of ttwd is so different I think from everyone else. Feeling alone and confused.

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    1. Gigi,
      You are not alone and you do not need to be confused. I feel like I have been waited for you and I do not even know you. This is the very way one of those best friends I wrote about contacted me. I am giving you my email and will look forward to getting to know you. Please write, Gigi. I'll look for your email.
      meredith7006@gmail.com

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