Saturday, September 7, 2019

New Twist Under The Microscope

If you have read this blog from the beginning, you deserve a medal of honor and I thank you. If you want to know how and why I began blogging, you can read for yourself the reasons in those early posts. 

I do love science. In fact, I met Jack in the science lab in high school. The mysteries of science are so darn interesting. One day, and perhaps soon, the cure for cancer will be discovered once and for all. In a round-about way, ttwd is a scientific breakthrough. After years of playing tug-of-war for control in our marriage, ttwd "scientifically" solved the leadership question, the sexual renewal atmosphere and the happiness quotient in a long marriage. How about that for science! A spanking after giving consent is scientific proof of what happens when behavior is stopped and a new atmosphere is established.  Who needs a laboratory when a Hoh has the side of the bed and a paddle! 

I thought of this blog analysis over the summer when my new interests took me in different directions.  My happiness quotient continued to soar. Our sexual renewal was an active part of our lives and the ability to lean in and follow was now the way we lived. The glitches were taken care of by a loving, attentive husband and my happiness and contentedness were constant in my life. I put all this squarely on ttwd and the way we viewed all of it. 

So I then began thinking about the things I have learned right here. The reasons I began blogging, the wonderful friends I have made, and going from nervous new blogger to guiding others into blogland. I thought about the people who are faithful to commenting, both the readers and bloggers. I thought about the people who email "behind the blog". Never in my wildest dreams did I ever consider that I would vacation with bloggers and ttwd friends, visit their homes and welcome them into mine. I learned that it is women of a certain age that search for the same things I do. Sexual renewal with the same guy I walked down the aisle with and the friction undercurrent felt in our marriage before ttwd were front and center. I wanted what I felt was gone. I wanted that just married chemistry. We did find it with Jack leading and me over the bed!

My blog began with a simple goal of finding other women just like me. We certainly could do ttwd without blogging. However, blogging put me in communication with other women.  My personal goal was to rekindle what Jack and I had as young married people, AND this is a big one, I wanted lasting, close friendships made right here in blogland. I wanted those friends to turn into real-life experiences and be lasting. A tall order to be sure! I began thinking that meeting and loving other women just like me was pie in the sky. Wishful thinking to be sure!

The first thing I did to make those goals become true was to encourage women interested in ttwd to write to me behind the blog. Guess what happened? Lots of readers did just that and I have the stories to prove it. 

Once a blogger told me that comments to a post are the lifeblood of a blogger. I have received wonderful, heartfelt comments and emails. Some were very bold, audacious. Some people writing forgot how very important good manners are as they demanded to know things that were not their concern. I will keep those names to myself. I thought I would share a few of the things that have happened. Readers wrote emails and that was wonderful except for the few who were demanding, rude and disrespectful.

     * One sweet reader is a Facebook friend, too and she posted on FB that her community experienced horrible flooding. The teachers in her flooded area needed help. I sent out the word to fellow bloggers and readers asking for donations for teachers needing school supplies. We raised money and we were glad we could help. 

    * There were many who wrote to me and then simply vanished. There were bloggers I introduced and then they left with a brief word to me or no word at all. Blogging requires fresh ideas. You need to have something to say. You need to develop trust in those who read your blog. Security is essential. 
    *  I worry to this day about the safety of one blogger and still do. She does not blog anymore, but I think about her safety. So I have kept her as a FB friend. I worry.

    *  I had lunch with a reader and her husband. She was bossy and demanding of what was to be ordered and I kept my eyes lowered as she instructed her husband what to order. She was the Hoh in every sense of the word and completely unaware of what she was doing. He was a nice man, but I had no problem telling who was in charge.

   *  Google plus scared me to death. It was a chat room of sorts. Men kept joining and I was spooked. Jack said to get out of Google plus or take the blog down. Good-bye, Google plus. Now we have bloggers advertising for doms, for heaven's sake! What a dangerous thing to do!

   *  With many emailing to me, I began a rule that I have used for a long time. After five email exchanges, the emailer needed to send a photo of herself and her husband or there is no more email. I sent a photo of Jack and me. He is dressed in his dress blue uniform. Only one emailer refused and threw a hissy fit before vanishing. We had exchanged way more than five emails. One needs to be cautionary when online and I was. One reader sent me her photo after we had exchanged emails, but refused to tell her first name. She left long ago. Finding doms online is the new trend. How very dangerous is that! Good grief! 

   *  You might have noticed that I have no blogroll. I did for a while, but my blog was hacked big time. The gamers on the other side of the world added their name/site to my blogroll. To do that, they had to be all the way into the blog. A real behind-the-blog-moment and I could not fix it. I simply took down the whole blogroll and continued once I had changed my password. 

   *  Just a couple of times I have used my blog as a platform for social and political incidents and situations that caused me to say something. I remember well Cat's words early on that my blog belongs to me. So I have used the blog a few times in that way and it was the right thing to do. Remaining silent is all about being complicit. 

   * I had been blogging a little over a year when all hell broke loose.  Two bloggers exposed Red Booty Woman who claimed to be a wife and mother of seven. She was neither. Blondie's blog served as our platform as all bloggers weighed in on the deceit and dishonesty of a blogger we had all trusted. 

   * Then a husband and wife team was exposed for the way in which they used blogland as a way to make money leaving many stunned. They cultivated sympathy for health problems. Not sure those health problems were even real. They sponsored meet-ups of ttwd couples around the world which required a big fee on your credit card for the access and meeting time. Once the credit card was given, the actual place of the meetup was shared. It was one of those times to stand way, way back. I think a lot of money changed hands and they made a tidy profit. Unsure of the fallout here as they simply disappeared and fast probably taking their money with them. 

   *  I speak on the phone with blogger friends often. We help and support one another and it always feels good. 

   *  I almost forgot. One reader told me that she thought I was a good writer. She asked if I would please teach her how to write so she could become a blogger too. Really!!


New Twist by the numbers:

The number of published posts: 518

The number of drafts:  79 (!)

Total page views: approaching 469,000+

The number of mentors at the beginning: 2

The number of bloggers launched: 11

The number of those bloggers still active: 5

The number of guest bloggers on this blog: 2

The number of Beach Sister vacations: 3

The number of ttwd couples visiting our home for extended 
stays: 5

Number of bloggers/readers who have become good friends: 7

The bloggers I would most like to meet: Stormy and Minelle and her Scotsman. I probably will never meet Stormy, but I will meet Minelle and her Scotsman one day! Ami, Jan and Ronnie are right there on my list too.

My blogging days are less frequent now as I have many other things going. Some of those interests are new and some are favorites. I am so pleased that I have achieved my goals here in blogland. 

So how about that pie in the sky? I do have that pie in the sky. She found my blog in 2015 and wrote to me behind the blog as Jack and I were leaving on a big adventure. I asked her to trust me. I would be away for almost three weeks, but when I returned, I would write. We have never looked back since. She is not a blogger as she is one very busy lady. We email one another often. Sometimes the emails are long and sometimes not. She and her husband practice ttwd the same way we do. How about that? We have been in one another homes and have vacationed together. 

So I am ending with some advice: If you are a reader of ttwd blogs, write to the blogger and get to know her. Exchange stories, ask questions and perhaps, you will develop a ttwd friendship that is so satisfying and true. Just saying...........

We do not do ttwd......... we are ttwd! When we began, I kept waiting for ttwd to start not realizing that such a big change would take time as we each grew into our roles. We have lived through an amazing marriage evolution for sure. 

And just so you know, spanking is happening here at our house and we are happy. Ttwd is front and center here and will remain so. 


Thursday, September 5, 2019

Rosie and Harry Come To Visit

Everything is ready. Lemon cake and the tart, lemon sauce are made. The bed linens are crisp and lightly scented. The pantry and fridge are bulging with good things to eat. Everything is polished and in order. Tomorrow Rosie and her Harry arrive and the fun begins. We have things to show and stories to tell, but Rosie and I just really want to sit in the garden and talk, talk, talk. 


We are now approaching the final days of Harry and Rosie's visit. Oh, what a good time we have had. The weather remains gorgeous and now much cooler. We have taken them to see the sites of our neck of the woods and their response is always enthusiastic. Good car conversations, lots of laughing and enjoying of Rosie's fun gift to delicious jelly baby candies. 

Because Rosie and I are Beach Sisters, we do know one another well. We have eaten breakfast together many times. However, I did learn something new. This girl loves bacon, crisp bacon. Jack always cooks center cut bacon and Rosie is pleased when he places the bacon right next to her plate. Even from our Beach Sister days, I never knew her fondness for crisp bacon! 


Sunday, August 18, 2019

An Intimate Peek Into Two Ttwd Bedrooms

You are about to take a peek into two different ttwd bedrooms. These bedrooms are a continent apart, but so much that happens in these bedrooms is very similar. I think you will find a lot of similarities.

Ttwd is a very private, closed-door activity between two loving people. Laurel and I both fully agree on that. Once that bedroom door closes, the intimacy takes over. Jack had told me I was "micro-managing and he handled my bossiness in a tried and true Hoh way which did include some of the paddle. After it was over, I thought a lot about the atmosphere of a spanking: the environment of our bedroom and what exactly had happened. When the spanking was over, I was very turned on. Yes, my bottom was sore and I was in Jack's arms and the "micro-managing" was over, but my mind was swirling. I thought about the wonderful secret we share and I thought about the atmosphere of our ttwd bedroom. 

Peek inside our bedroom. I am very quiet and calm when I meet Jack at the side of the bed. He is gentle, touching me and soft-spoken. This man loves me and I am never frightened. He undresses me and he is very much in control. There is definite electricity in the air. I am never scared. My tummy flips and flops. I know how this ends and I am full of trust and love of this guy. We continue to talk right there at the side of the bed......... but talk is now quiet and purposeful as he explains why he is unhappy with me. Sometimes he talks holding the paddle.  I look at him with real and honest admiration for taking the lead in our family and for taking care of us. Then talk is over and over I go. This atmosphere is one of love and keeping us on track. It works and it works so well. We can easily start over and do so facing forward........... without any micro-managing. 

I asked my good friend Laurel about the atmosphere of spanking in her bedroom. She sent me her answer that I found so poignant and eloquent I asked her if I might share her response on the blog. She said yes and here is what she wrote. 

I am thinking about our "atmosphere" and I think in one word, it's respect- especially at that time. I look at that guy as I'm between his legs or at the side of the bed with nothing but admiration and appreciation. I may not want what's about to come my way, but in the moment, he's attentive and considerate, thoughtful of me and my need, or our needs, and he delivers. He speaks firmly, but calmly even when he means business. I am grateful, always grateful to him for taking on this responsibility of us. It's a really big one, and maybe that is why it's so hard for some guys. My guy also loves how we are able to move on afterward, the feelings of closure, love and closeness that lets us start again. 

These two peeks are very real and telling. I thank Laurel for sharing and allowing me to post their take of the atmosphere in their home. It really makes me just smile because ttwd is that special secret that is shared behind closed doors and then with a good friend afterward. 


Monday, August 5, 2019

Following Rosie's Snippet Post

These little snippets are happening all day long at our house.

M: I think you just look for things to spank me for.
J: I do not have to look very far.

J: I have a few remedies for that kind of talk.
M: (taking off my bathrobe)
J: Glad you know when to get ready!

M: Jack, are we good now?
J: We will be by bedtime.

J: Mere, you do not have enough backside skin to take care of all this.
M: (round-eyed surprised look! I say nothing)

M: My ankle hurts and I am putting ice on it. 
J: Yesterday it was your knee. 
M: Tomorrow is will be something else. 
J: Let's just put you over the bed and spank all of that hurting out of you right now. 

My sweet ttwd friend wanted in on this sharing too. She is not a blogger, but she is an excellent writer. She and her husband practice ttwd and the two of us are in close contact. So even though she is on vacation, she emailed some of the snippets that have occurred while enjoying time away. Here they are................ while on vacation!

Walking hand in hand........
B: Oh, darn it!
L: What's wrong? 
B: I forgot to pack the paddle. 
L: What! Are you kidding me? 
B: No, I was going to bring everything with us on our getaway. 
L: Huh?!
B: Maybe there is something we can use in the kitchen ....... don't worry.
L: (Worry? I'd be worried if that paddle made the suitcase)

Just as they pulled into the hotel resort.........
B: (comes around and opens the passenger door)
L: Thank you, but I am to wait here.
B: No, you are not: you are coming in with me. 
L: Why....... we are only checking in. 
B: I want your ass within hands' reach. Let's go. 

Looking for a parking place near the restaurant.......
B: Just sit back and relax. 
L: I'm just helping you look for a parking spot. 
B: There is no need to. I've got it under control.
L: I'll just look. 
B: took her hand and squeezed.
L: Be careful. That's my swollen finger. 
B: Is your ass sore as well because it's going to be. 

L: Do you ever look around and wonder if others do what we do?
B: (Laughing at what I said, he puts his book down) No, I do not. 
L: Really? Never?
B: NEVER, should I be looking for red bottoms while poolside? 
L: No, I just wondered. 
B: Your red bottom is the only one I'm interested in, honey, and I think it needs some color soon. 

So it seems that Jack is not the only one who is quick with those ttwd snippets. How about your house? So in the comment section, write your own snippet of the give and take in your ttwd relationship. 


Tuesday, July 30, 2019

The Song Remembers When

True confession time and why not! When we took early retirement, Jack gifted me with the car of my dreams. After a lifetime of driving the tried and true cars, I chose a beautiful blue hardtop convertible and just love driving on top-down days. Yesterday was a top-down day. Well, most summer days are! When friends come to visit, we enjoy that car and our talks away from the men!

I was returning from seeing an elderly friend cheering her up with fresh strawberries, angel food cake and a little whipped cream. We chatted just a little while. Then I was on my way home.

The sun was out and the temperature was about 80 degrees with a gentle breeze and, of course, the music was playing. Easy drive, no traffic and I was humming right along. Then the music on the radio stopped me cold as I drove home. I was listening to an oldie playlist and the song coming from the radio was a "just married" song of ours and I was in heaven. Driving in the sunshine, temp so easy and the breeze through my hair, I felt like a young woman in my head. I thought of my Jack and my tummy did a big flip flop just the way it used to in those falling in love days. 

Every since I was 17, and knew this was my guy, I wait for these moments that bring that feeling right back.......... it is the song on the radio, through the fancy speakers in the car. The song remembers when. So you know that Trisha Yearwood song? One of the lines in the song is "it was like a lighted match had been tossed into my soul". Exactly! Precisely! My Jack turns me on and he knows exactly how to do it. It always keeps me coming back for more and I was all of a sudden really looking forward to getting home to my guy. 

When I got home and we were preparing dinner, I asked him if he had those moments...... the song remembers when and we are once again in those early years. His answer was to take me in his arms and dance me around the kitchen and then to give me a sensual good girl right there as dinner simmered on the stove. 

 I put full responsibility on ttwd which gives us the framework to return to the way of those just married people we once were. 

Do you remember back to when you fell in love hearing the song remembers when? Does the music take you back? Music is such a strong language. Tell us! 


Thursday, July 11, 2019

Cheeky, Saucy Or Sassy?

Those big thick reference books simply cannot solve this situation. We had a situation here and Jack gave a tutorial right there at the side of the bed spanking away. He thought it very important to discuss three important words ....... cheeky, saucy, and sassy! He wanted to clarify and review those definitions while his sweet wife was right there over the bed. No, I did not take notes during that spanking, but the minute is was possible, I was up rubbing with one hand and writing with the other exactly the finer points of Jack's discussion. Now that is a most interesting chain of events as well as a funny visual picturing all of that. 

Jack explained his definitions of those three words and the consequences of each as well. Meanwhile, the spanking kept going.   First up along with my bottom was the word cheeky.  Jack defined this word as unasked for comments, unnecessary comments that come from his wife. I have no idea the definition in the dictionary or the thesaurus. I was only concerned with Jack's point of view at the moment. Saucy was the next word up for discussion as the spanking continued. His definition was sexy as in he liked it and thought it worked well for us. Wow......... so I needed to remember that definition. However, we were right at the heart of the spanking. now. The definition of sassy was front and center. Sassy is hands-on-hips, finger-pointing, talking above a conversational tone, big time attitude and rudeness.   My husband says that sassy means a spanking, no if and or buts, except mine. 

There you have Jack's definitions.  

Please share your definitions or you can interview your Hoh and share your answers. 


Thursday, July 4, 2019

Soundtrack of Our Lives

We used to go to movies all the time. We loved the movies. Good and Plenty candy mixed in with our popcorn and we were all set to hold hands and watch the big screen. However, movies began to change and we did too. We go to less and less movies each year, but are faithful subscribers to Netflix, Amazon Prime and Acorn TV. 

Then we heard about the movie Yesterday. I will not spoil the movie, but this film literally plays the soundtrack of our lives and it is a cute, sweet story. No one dies. In fact, you might see someone from the dead right there on the screen. 

What is best about the movie is listening to one great Beatle song right after another during the whole movie. It is a hand holding movie if ever there was one. Grab your sweetie and go.